Spike's Bitches 23: We've mastered the power of positive giving up.
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With Leif, I rolled him up in a towel and then put the eye-drops in. All wrapped up like a burrito, he couldn't put up his usual fight.
Chris will be five (yikes!) on Sunday. I don't think I have a towel that big.
Cindy, I've covered my eyes and am singing "lalalalalala" at the thought of giving eye drops.
What semi-worked with Julia, is having her look up, then pulling open the lower lid, and aiming the drops for that little pocket. When they're younger, it is easier, because they don't get freaked out by concepts in quite the same way, and seem more able in some way, to process a minor inconvenience without holding a grudge.
Getting rolled up in a towel is just good fun until someone tries to put drops in your eye.
Hee!
You're not pathetic and whiny, sj. You're just frustrated. Hopefully, your mother will become a little more aware that some of this is HER and learn to trust you. Maybe taking a less emotional approach with her might help--or keeping your answers to her mother-henning short. She might eventually pick up on that. Other than that, I don't have very much good advice. My twin and I were the youngest, so my folks were very hands-off with us, having BTDT three times already.
Boy's down for a nap. He's been whiny and snotty all morning and cried for about a half an hour before succumbing to sleep. Colds SUCK.
Don't get angry. Br cheery and perky and thank her very much for her "suggestions" and tell her that some of them will be very helpful. That way YOU are defining them "as suggestions which you might or might not follow, since you are the boss of you" but you are calm and rational,so that doesn't give her anything to react to.
I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to pretend like an order is a suggestion, and I am not good at being calm when all of my buttons are being pushed.
Chris will be five (yikes!) on Sunday.
That's tough, maybe a small blanket? Leif is tough enough to do things to and he's only two and a half, I hope he gets more cooperative by the time he's five.
Well, now is the perfect opportunity to learn how. It'll be hard the first couple of times, but it will get easier and then you will have more freedom, which is the ultimate goal. Acting like an order is a suggestion robs it of its power. Pretending buttons aren't being pushed, even though it may require going into a closet and screaming afterwards, is a way to make the button-pusher stop. In effect, you are training your mother to behave to you the way you want her to by changing your behavior.
Pretty wee baby! Lovely Plei.
Poor Chris. I hated the taste of the drops for pinkeye. Do you still get the nasty taste after you do the drops?
The boys were pretty cool about that stuff. Bobby wouldn't take pills, but drops and liquids were no problem.
Thanks, Robin. I will have to try that. I am also going to send an e-mail to my therapist.
Just a brag on my little boy. While in Home Depot (let me tell you, taking Leif to Home Depot is an adventure, especially with his sister yelling advice to him like "Run Leif!") he started reading the signs. He also is starting to read very simple books. I'm hoping he'll end up liking to read like his sister.
Lily is so beautiful.
I wish I had some advice, sj, but my mother still worries too much about me. I usually find something else to do while talking to her on the phone, so that I can partially ignore what she says.
Oh! I forgot what I was going to post! My sister sent me this...
How to start your day off with a positive attitude:
1. Create a "new folder" on your computer.
2. Name it "George W. Bush"
3. Send it to the trash.
4. Empty the trash.
5. Your computer will ask you: "Do you really want to get rid of "George W. Bush"?"
6. Answer calmly, "Yes", and press the mouse button firmly!
Apologies to those that didn't find that amusing.
