Damn, how'd you work that?

Heh. See above clarification.

I had huge committment issues right up until a year into the marriage. One of the sweetest boyfriends I ever had, and I still adore him to death, was planning on marrying me once I graduated HS, and we would do the college thing together. Once I saw he was really planning that stuff I was gone. Even when Mr. H asked me to marry him, my answer wasn't "Yes" but "When!?!"

In some ways, homeschooling would have been better for me. Except for the part where either I, my brother, or my mother might not have survived. I guess it was worth it, to not. I went to a public school and I turned out...wait, what point was I making again?

and I turned out...

Snarky.

ita, are you home today?

I will amend to specify that my "everybody has his reasons" quotation is not dismissive, but an acknowledgement. When it comes to parenting everybody makes their best call and there are times when it will be private school or home schooling and that was the best choice.

My gripe is with the presumed cultural value (which I see as prevalent) for one-on-one parenting that is so strong that it can't put it in context with socialization, common acculturation, democratic values, or even that there are times when on-one-one parenting is narcissistic and unhealthy.

ita, are you home today?

Nope, although I wish I were. Too much to do.

My gripe is with the presumed cultural value (which I see as prevalent) for one-on-one parenting

Do you see homeschooling as inextricably intertwined with the one-on-one urge, or just something alongside it ruins the country?

My gripe is with the presumed cultural value (which I see as prevalent) for one-on-one parenting

I definitely agree with the cliche that it takes a village. Totally. But that still doesn't preclude homeschooling when the alternatives suck or are unworkable. (And I realize you weren't saying that "it takes a village" precludes homeschooling. I'm just saying.)

Snarky. Yeah. From the ancient Greek meaning "butthead".(/Everything I Know I Learned From H:LOTS) With Hec in the public school believing. So of course Dad and Stepmonster? Pay a metric fuckload for church school despite having the spirituality of lint. God, have I carried that around for a long time, biting my tongue and all...thank you Natter for letting me say it finally. And he's still behind for his age(the kid, not my dad...well, him too, but they are not magicians.)

narcissistic and unhealthy

True American values.

I don't think I have ever been one-on-one parented, so I'm not the best judge; but I'm a big fan of leaving people alone at least some of the time. I know a number of people who cannot bear to get down with their own bad selves.

I made a call that I have been putting off for a week and I got 3 of the 6 things I needed to talk to them about answered and moving forward. RAWK!!!

also? BIG soda at lunch. caffeine. WATCH OUT!