At the last shower I attended, the bride was given Guide To Getting It On! by her best friend. Her fiancé's family was tittering, faking being scandalised, and poring through it and shrieking. They passed it around to me and I waved it on. To their raised eyebrows I replied "I have my own copy." I looked at the best friend and gave her a thumb's up.

The bride's mother and grandmother were there. I can't imagine admitting the existence of that book around my parents. But her mother? Called her back to ask "What was it called, exactly?"

Bundt cake isn't just the pan?

Hee.

I think it's great they were enthuisatic. I went to a dear friend's shower, and her mother is SUPER ULTRA conservative -- Bible Belt Baptist, really naive and easily upset, and we had to be really careful what we said and did.

But for her bachelorette, we all went and got tattoos, so it evened out.

Bundt cake isn't just the pan?

I always thought of is a pan thing -- it's a trademark, I think.

My groomsmen and ushers gave me a card at the reception with their gift. It had Dudley Doright on the front and said, "There are good guys. And there are bad guys." When I opened it up, it said, "and then there is us!". It contained three polaroids of all the guys naked except for their bow ties.

I blew champaign out of my nose when DH's 80 year old grandmother asked to see the card TWICE.

We couldn't have asked for better wedding attendants.

Can you get bundt cake mix?

Bundt cake is just the pan. Most box cakes mixes have the appropriate times and temps for them listed.

I'm weird. I can discuss sex related stuff with my parents (though strictly in a nonspecific and/or jokey sense or maybe literature suggestions though sometimes mom shares TMI) but with friends? I'm all for everyone have good sex. I just don't need to know anything more about their preferences or any sort of specifics. Please. It's odd.

Bowties around their ... necks?

Bowties around their ... necks?

Um. Yes.

Huh. See, I always thought bridal shower etiquette demanded that the bride have no say in the planning of her shower.

When my best friend got married, I threw her a fabulous shower that was exactly what I knew she would want but I didn't breathe a word to her. I think it was the first time in her entire life that she was actually surprised. Of course, I did have to deal with the MIL aka Satan's Handmaiden and the Slacker Bridesmaids from HELL.

I still get pissy just thinking about the sixty person guest list.

As anyone who's ever met me knows, I am Queen of Blunt and will talk about anything, anywhere. And most of my friends are the same way, so it's enough dirt for a Dyson.

Ok, we got bundt pans from the Bride, so vanilla cake and pink frosting. This we can do.

I plan on being a dirty old lady. I'll be that naughty 80 y.o. at the shower.