I bet there's something nice about mutual, lifelong monogamy for a couple who started and continued that way.

Yep. I have no regrets whatsoever that I've only ever slept with the one guy. I do, however, have MAJOR issues with the amount of guilt, angst, and general obsessiveness over sexual issues I picked up in my college days and shortly thereafter and took a long time to work through. Because it's stupid, and I don't think it's even what Jesus MEANT when he talked about lust, and Song of Solomon is in the Bible too, dangit.

I totally failed to wear red every day last year. That is, there were days I didn't wear red. There were days I did. The effect on my luck is unknown. t /Monkey

Here's pic of me and my sweet, flower-giving-for-no-reason, BF.

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Aren't we cute??

Song of Solomon is in the Bible too, dangit

I made sure this was included in our wedding ceremony. *g*

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Supercute.

It's anti-sex. I think that's wrong. I think it's creepoid Puritanism. It is to my mind - inhumane. Specifically, contrary to human nature. It's about deprivation and denial and guilt.

But what if it isn't about "deprivation and denial and guilt" to the people involved? What if they see chastity as a rational choice (which it can be) and one their god approves of (which it also is, though their god may not = my god or your god or The God)?

Like you, I have a problem with people being made to feel dirty for being human. But the choice to only have sex in marriage, if freely entered into, is as valid as the choice to sleep with a different person every day for 75 years, or anything in-between.

Very, Chikat.

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In a word? Adorable.

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SO cute!!!

It depends on why one remains chaste, I think. My mom says a distressing number of her peers spent so much time thinking of sex and sexual feelings as something "bad" to ignore and resist, that when they got married they had a horrible time being sexual with their husbands. There was pain and disgust and all kinds of things which made real emotional intimacy impossible, just when it was most needed. She has several friends who never liked it, and a couple who took years and years before it was pleasurable. Sad.

If sex is seen as something pleasurable which one is choosing not to engage in for personal reasons, then there is less chance of this happening again on such a wide scale like it did in the '50s.