Fast paperwork~ma for your co-worker WindSparrow. Logic would dictate looking at the result from 3 years ago. Oh yeah, logic has no place here.

Susan - Bridezilla needs a clue stick. My BIL still has to endure all of his friends and family joking about how horrible his wife was about their wedding. Including her screaming at the top of her lungs while in her wedding dress. "This is my wedding and we will do things my way!" His friends begged him not to go through with it and to run quickly. Alas, he did not and lived to regret the decision. Often self-centered clueless types never grow up, but sometimes a cluesticking from non-family hits home.

{{Sail and loved ones}} Peaceful thoughts headed your way.

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Sail, peace and love to Kathy, you and your family. May Jerry rest in peace.

My tv just said, in all fucking seriousness, "Earthquakes don't kill people, buildings do."

Disclaimer: I get that this is technically true, but I don't think the buildings are really making a choice to kill.

Eh. I bet before there were buildings, some people and animals still died as the result of earthquakes.

The quicker she learns she's not the center of the universe, in spite of the fact that it's her "special day", the better for all involved, Susan.

I say use the cluestick. The big one.

Ayep

I don't envy you, Susan. What that woman really needs is a kick in the pants, and you can't give her one, since you work for the church. How are you going to handle her?

~ma for WindSparrow's co-worker. It is nice that the background checks are taken seriously, but if this happens ever 3 years and his record was expunged, there ought to be some sort of way to deal with checking this particular part of his history. Poor guy.

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Suggestion for bridezilla, but will take a modicum of footwork: Call a couple of the more expensive wedding-chapel type places in the area, get their rates.

Next time bridezilla has a whinge-attack, say something along the lines of:

The challenge of having a wedding in a church is that it just cannot be dedicated to your special day, the way you deserve, like other facilities are. For example TheBellsAreRinging Chapel & Pool Hall promises there will be no bikers in your dressing area for as much as 2 1/2 hours before your event. Totally dedicated to YOUR needs. Now it is just a teensy bit more expensive than Our Church, but really, I'm sure you see $___/hr is quite a bargain. And you truly are getting what you pay for, compared to the $___ fee for the church. Of course, it does have that little downside of not being as traditional a location as Our Church, but I'm sure someone of your creativity would be aces at playing up the atmosphere and having a lovely wedding there.

Said in a treacly professional telephone voice?

I'd do it. But then, I'm nobody's wedding co-ordinator.

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Thanks for the ~ma. And, no. Logic has no place in beaurocracy.

Another bridezilla suggestion, and I may be the only person in Christendom evil enough to do it, is to briefly take up the role of spiritual mentor, and trot out chapter&verse on not having a whiny complaining attitude, complete with suggesting that God will not bless a marriage that starts out with this kind of attitude.

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All of my suggestions involve intimidation and/or yellow crime tape, Susan. Better you than me.(Although the thought of a wedding coordinator coming on all cop-like and saying "We can do this the hard way or the easy way," amuses muchly.) Good thoughts for Sail and fam. And Timelies...feels like I've not been here for ages.

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And Timelies...feels like I've not been here for ages.

God, seriously! It's been like what, three days?

{{{Sail and family}}}

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Feelings are not facts, of course. What can I say? I'm a fiend. My book has just been the drug of choice lately.

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Said in a treacly professional telephone voice?

I don't think Susan can do this, as she is employed by the church as wedding coordinator. She can't be sending people away.

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Lois Lane is dead?

She was dead until Superman went back in time (by going faster than light) and saved her.

Damn.

signed,
Sorry, I Just Don't Like Lois

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Susan, I was never a specific wedding coordinator, but as office manager for a beautiful old church in the Boston area, I did deal with some weddings. The people involved were totally mellow, so I was pretty lucky there. My advice (because I *did* constantly have to tell people that they could not could not have the run of the place, which was often challenging) is to just stick to your guns, keep repeating that you don't know about the fridge, the this the that, that the groups involved have a right to be there as well. Does she have a contract of any kind?

Just stick to the facts again and again, and don't let her get you riled up. Let her know (preferably in writing) what her responsibilities are.

Signed, BTDT.

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