Jasmine ,'Power Play'
[NAFDA] "There will be an occasional happy, so that it might be crushed under the boot of the writer." From Zorro to Angel (including Wonderfalls and The Inside), this is where Buffistas come to anoint themselves in the bloodbath.
Did you know that Dude was into S&M?
If it matters that she knew, then that line between BDSM and assault just got incredibly blurry.
But I still don't think that excuses it or, honestly, even mitigates it. If my hypothetical date likes skydiving and I say, "Oh that sounds cool. Tell me more." I doubt that would lead to the assumption that it's okay to toss me out of plane without my consent after creme brulee.
This, exactly.
I'm going to go nap now. Thank you all for a discussion of BDSM that proved quite enlightening and made me question my own judgements and ideas about how the world works. Buffistas are the foamiest.
Have fun, Kiba. And remember: dream of spanking.
If my hypothetical date likes skydiving and I say, "Oh that sounds cool. Tell me more." I doubt that would lead to the assumption that it's okay to toss me out of plane without my consent after creme brulee.
If your date likes, say, kissing and then starts kissing you without asking, or goes for your buttons or under the skirt -- same degree of bad?
Or is your date taking place in the plane, with the cargo door open? Does he shove you out of the plane, or put on your gear and then take it off when you freak?
The sounds you hear are of me stretching an analogy until it snaps.
It's not any squickier than some things I know you've seen. I thought the episode was really fascinating (even if all the parts didn't exactly work for me). It's an interesting subject--proven by the interesting discussion here.
Okay. My mind went straight to Faith torturing Wesley here, was that intentional?
What if instead of cuffing her, he'd smacked her in the face? Would that count as assault?
What if instead of cuffing her, he'd smacked her in the face? Would that count as assault?
yes, as would cuffing her
If I were going to read something unpleasant into the episode, I think that might be it - if I were looking for things - that there's some indication that women who are powerful outside the bedroom particularly enjoy the switch of feeling (though not being) powerless inside it.
This bugged me a bit, but from a different angle - I didn't find the emphasis was on how powerful these women were, but how emotionally lacking.
yes, as would cuffing her
That's the point I've been arguing (badly). I just wonder if the difference for some people is that putting her in restraints didn't physically harm her.
The sounds you hear are of me stretching an analogy until it snaps.
HA!