I hate the implication that if you're a single woman, then you are obligated to date any man that asks you out. It's offensive.

I'll see Allyson's amen, and raise a halleluja.

I mean, you can like a guy, love him, adore him, esteem him ... and not be attracted to him.

cf most of my male friends.

It just happens weird.

And it does happen in the other direction too.

absolutely.

Actually, Jenny's post sort of got me thinking, as surprising as it is for someone who's spent a lot of time as a dateless wonder, I've been on both sides of this equation - I've been the guy who doesn't understand why the girl I asked out won't just give me a chance, and I've been the one who feels no attraction at all towards the woman who's suddenly putting a lot of pressure on me to go out with her.

So, as much as I agree that there's no obligation whatsoever on the part of the person being asked out to reciprocate, I can also say (as relates to Spike/Buffy) sometimes you at least consider saying yes because you're lonely and want some lovin', even if you know deep within your heart of hearts that you have no love for the other person, and that sleeping with them is maybe a bad idea. Sometimes you do it anyway.

Humans have a long history of doing things they know to not be a good idea.

Humans have a long history of doing things they know to not be a good idea.

And for the worst reasons.

sometimes you at least consider saying yes because you're lonely and want some lovin', even if you know deep within your heart of hearts that you have no love for the other person, and that sleeping with them is maybe a bad idea. Sometimes you do it anyway.

This is true. I spent long periods of my life doing this. I can't say I wouldn't do it again, either. But - for now - give me the single and unhealthy-relationship-free life.

And to be more on-topic. This IS SO S6 Buffy. I completely understood where she was coming from.

Yeah, I guess they'd prefer brutal honesty, right? A laundry list of the reasons that you don't want to go out with them. That'd go over really well, I'm sure.

Oh, God, I've had this conversation. "Why not?" Dude, you do not want me to sit here and explain the things about you that make me not want to date you, do you? Because I can guarantee it's not going to make you feel any better.

Come to think of it, that was the same guy who said "you should have said yes, gone out with me a few times, and then let me down easily!" Um, no.

Tonight's UPN rerun is Lies My Parents Told Me, yes?

Because I can guarantee it's not going to make you feel any better.

In fact, it would make you feel a lot worse.

Come to think of it, that was the same guy who said "you should have said yes, gone out with me a few times, and then let me down easily!" Um, no.

Seriously.

'Cuz that would actually make it much worse, too. Because then you've granted them their desire, and they think they've got it made, and then after a few dates you're letting them go?

Yeah, that sounds like a recipe for disaster.

Did I mention that this was a week after I was cold-cocked with the end of a two-and-a-half year relationship? So he had some timing issues, too.

Tonight's UPN rerun is Lies My Parents Told Me, yes?

That's what yahoo TV says - but don't forget, it's an hour later now.