FECK! ARSE!
Are you implying something because of your deliberate dropping of 'girls!' ?
I already know what I'm gonna call her. Got a name all picked out...
Mal ,'Out Of Gas'
Bureaucracy 2: Like Sartre, Only Longer
A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.
Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych
Elena's Husband - Mar 30, 2004 7:12:06 pm PST #8384 of 10005
I want miniature cheeseburgers!
billytea - Mar 30, 2004 7:12:09 pm PST #8385 of 10005
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
bon bon - Mar 30, 2004 7:12:20 pm PST #8386 of 10005
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
Wait a sec, Shawn, are you saying that the poster is responsible for how other people react to the post?
Yes. Crazy notion, I know. If it's an unreasonable interpretation, then one is absolved. Otherwise, you take your lumps for what you put out there.
MechaKrelboyne - Mar 30, 2004 7:12:36 pm PST #8387 of 10005
... and that's a Pantera's box you don't want to open. - Mister Furious
THAT WOULD BE AN ECUMENICAL MATTER!
Why's everyone piling on the ecumenicalismocity?
Elena's Husband - Mar 30, 2004 7:13:19 pm PST #8388 of 10005
I want miniature cheeseburgers!
Look! There's Bishop Brennan. Go kick him up the arse!
§ ita § - Mar 30, 2004 7:13:24 pm PST #8389 of 10005
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I'd like to think that you'd have given the benefit of this particular doubt to a new poster as well.
Maybe, maybe not. There'd be a larger context in which it all lived.
Fact is, that if I had no subtext, you just offended me. Fact #2 is, I don't think Elena would do this intentionally. And I would never have brought it up, except I thought it was a good example for the topic at hand.
Someone right in off the street? I may ask for clarification, but that would be after I got offended. That's how close the subtext lies to your text.
I like to think I have a fair amount of the milk of human kindness. Some days, it's just the whey of scrolling past. The more "benefit of doubt" I have to apply to an unknown, the less I'm getting to know them, and there's a relationship not made.
Trudy Booth - Mar 30, 2004 7:15:43 pm PST #8390 of 10005
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Intentional or not, you are coming across as incredibly patronizing and arrogant.
Maybe to you he is. He is to some others. He isn't to me. He isn't to several people.
bon bon - Mar 30, 2004 7:16:59 pm PST #8391 of 10005
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
I like to think I have a fair amount of the milk of human kindness.
Hear, hear, if only because I like to think I know where ita is exercising a degree of discretion. As a side-note, in describing ita to Bob, he compared her to Wild Bill Hickok on Deadwood. I don't watch the show, so I don't know if the comparison is apt.
Rafmun - Mar 30, 2004 7:18:39 pm PST #8392 of 10005
I'm made of felt and my....hey, who's hand is that?
Intentional or not, you are coming across as incredibly patronizing and arrogant.
I tried hard not to be that, but really, that's not the issue. Me and my arrogance aside - there still remain more than a few long-termers who stood up and said 'me too' to at least some of what I observed, and others who added much of their own concerns and observations. What of them? Surely they're not arrogant and patronizing too for feeling similarly, are they? Is there any way to not seem arrogant and patronizing when asking that the board become a little more hospitable and considerate of others, and that bullying and piling on be less rewarded?
Elena - Mar 30, 2004 7:20:12 pm PST #8393 of 10005
Thanks for all the fish.
Someone right in off the street? I may ask for clarification, but that would be after I got offended. That's how close the subtext lies to your text.
I absolutely see that. And I'm, of course, not saying that you shouldn't be offended. But I am saying that your next post shouldn't be along the lines of 'you fucking asshole, how dare you'... You'd either ignore or ask for clarification.
I just don't see why the base assumption on the part of the reader shouldn't be on the side of benignity instead of malice. Mind you, this is with a newish poster. If it's someone you have a history with - positive or negative - of course that goes into the equation. But right off the bat to assume that someone is an asshole and reply accordingly? Makes for unpleasantness.