'Conversations with Dead People'
A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.
Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych
tone is in the eye of the beholder, and should be in control of the poster.
Wait a sec, Shawn, are you saying that the poster is responsible for how other people react to the post?
Because it's amazing how often I'm surprised at how completely differently I read a post than do others. And I'm also very surprised by the many and different things people are offended by.
Unless someone is deliberately being insulting, there is just so much room for interpretation.
FECK! ARSE!
Just lowering the tone.
Let's agree to disagree.
And in hindsight I'm thinking tone should have been called "Point of View". Of which we have many.
Dude, you forgot
DRINK!
and
GIRLS!
FECK! ARSE!
Are you implying something because of your deliberate dropping of 'girls!' ?
Wait a sec, Shawn, are you saying that the poster is responsible for how other people react to the post?
Yes. Crazy notion, I know. If it's an unreasonable interpretation, then one is absolved. Otherwise, you take your lumps for what you put out there.
THAT WOULD BE AN ECUMENICAL MATTER!
Why's everyone piling on the ecumenicalismocity?
Look! There's Bishop Brennan. Go kick him up the arse!
I'd like to think that you'd have given the benefit of this particular doubt to a new poster as well.
Maybe, maybe not. There'd be a larger context in which it all lived.
Fact is, that if I had no subtext, you just offended me. Fact #2 is, I don't think Elena would do this intentionally. And I would never have brought it up, except I thought it was a good example for the topic at hand.
Someone right in off the street? I may ask for clarification, but that would be after I got offended. That's how close the subtext lies to your text.
I like to think I have a fair amount of the milk of human kindness. Some days, it's just the whey of scrolling past. The more "benefit of doubt" I have to apply to an unknown, the less I'm getting to know them, and there's a relationship not made.