I like Allyson's idea of adding those paragraphs at the end of the simple document. And I'd like to know who'd be responsible for deciding that the default link on the etiquette info should be changed.

Are we a sanctuary or a coffee shop/nightclub/hangout?

Differs from person to person. At Salon and WXing, this was a sanctuary, for me. And it's all about me, despite what Victor says. He's so delusional.

And sanctuary wasn't about agreeing with "like minds who wouldn't upset me," it was about being challenged by smart minds who wouldn't choke on thier own stupidity. (BUFFY AND ANGLE 4EVAH!) (KILL THE RAGHEADS!)

Saw boards degenerate due to the "kumbayah, i was bullied when i was wee so i need to accept everyone and let's hold hands and sing joy to the world!" contingency.

Has to be standards, and no one seems to want to standardize.

Then again, I'm an elitist prick. Has to be a middle ground between me and kumbayaya.

I'm not at all sure that trying to produce a more codified definition of What Buffistas Are will be all that helpful - because one can always come up with exceptions to rules, and then there's a 'But so-and-so did something similar and you didn't rag on them' thing. So much of it is context-related.

For my part, I don't think breaking an official rule is the point, when it comes to violations of etiquette; I think (although this may just be my interpretation) that if X many people feel really uncomfortable with whatever thing has been said or done, then that needs to be addressed, regardless of whether somebody had the foresight to include it in a summary of what Buffistaland means.

Not because Buffistina Monkeypants has violated Section 5 Clause 2b of the Buffista Constitution, not because BMP intended/didn't intend to be a jerk, but simply because X many people feel uncomfortable. The more formal we make the constitution, the less flexible it is, because then you get bogged down in whether or not an infraction has occurred/been intended, when the point is that some people are upset and that needs resolving. Bottom line is surely along the lines of play nice and don't be a jerk? Which is difficult to quantify.

Connie-I think different people want different things from the board, I'm not sure we can say it can only be one thing for everyone.

I think Julie's post does a marvellous job of stating without getting granular. It's a principle thing, and applies to coffee shops and sanctuaries alike.

I think Julie's post does a marvellous job of stating without getting granular. It's a principle thing, and applies to coffee shops and sanctuaries alike.

Yep.

Saw boards degenerate due to the "kumbayah, i was bullied when i was wee so i need to accept everyone and let's hold hands and sing joy to the world!" contingency.

Has to be standards, and no one seems to want to standardize.

As one of the kumbayah crowd, I'm making no apologies for advocating giving people the benefit of the doubt and trying to understand their viewpoint. This is not the same as letting them walk all over you or the board. I'm distinguishing pretty firmly between condemning an individual poster and condemning the impact that they have upon the board, whether intentional or unintentional. Agreeing that a situation surrounding/caused by any given Buffistina Monkeypants needs resolving isn't the same as saying that the BMP in question is a bastard.

Of course, this is why I'm a kindergarten teacher.

Okay, but then if we choose "we knows it when we sees it" as a way of identifying board etiquette violations, then we will churn the same wheels over and over and over in mieske and zoe situations. We would have been better off, IMO, booting both of them weeks before it got to the boiling point. Really, they're the only two folks I've ever truly wanted booted, and could identify them immediately as Trouble. mieske was a Big Boy, and zoe was a Geo. They fit into the same sort of molds of two Bronze bezoars. It was like watching a car crash in slow motion.

I'm not sure if I'm creating more of a problem than currently exists, but I guess I come from a place where "etiquette and rulz" aren't as much about preventing a problem, per se, but of giving an asshole the rope in which s/he hangs him or herself.

I'm with Allyson and with askye and the rest. I prefer a simpler document rather than a longer filk version. It won't save us from trolls, but it will make it easier for people who do want to be One of Us to get it.

This famous quote comes to mind, “I can’t define pornography, but I know what it is when I see it.” I don’t think we can define inappropriate un-Buffistalike behavior, but we really do know it when we see it. Reading the FAQ and the Etiquette pages will not change a jerk into a personable Buffista. Most people will just leave if this place does not suit their needs or fit their personality. For those who do not have the good sense to leave a place where they clearly do not fit in, we are establishing procedures to cluestick them.