Also, I did originally think that ita had sent an official warning and was very disappointed to find that it was informal.

That's part of what I'm pissed about.

askye - I think a majority of people see your side and even agree with you. I am sorry that you feel attacked in this, and I am sorry that there will never be total agreement on issues like this, but there won't be.

I just see you getting more and more upset and I don't see a way to undo that.

Msbelle it's actually several different things that are frustrating me and I can't separate them very well right now.

Some of it has to do directly with Zoe and her situation.

Some of it is more general frustrations with other sort of issues that got wrapped up into it but I can't end up talking about one withouth the other.

What msbelle said askye. I don't think that those people who may call for some understanding of Zoe are trying to make light of your discomfort. Some people will always want to bend over backwards to give a poster the benefit of the doubt. I am not one of them, but I have been like that IRL about people who may not have deserved such consideration.

I feel you askye. I think that I'm trying to let the stuff about pile-ons and ganging up roll off my back because we're arguing about one poster who has, I feel violated the spirit of the community. I'd rather stick to discussing that.

I am an infrequent poster however I read the posts made by all the other Buffistas daily. I enjoy the comraderie of the Buffistas as it is unlike any other board I have seen. Until lately.

With that said, I would like to request (not demand) that everyone make an attempt to see this situation from every angle. I hate that one person is (seemingly) creating a tear in the fabric that is Buffistas. Hate it.

Everyone is shaped by experiences in their lives. All different experiences. Certain situations will always be more difficult for some than others and therefore will affect us all in a different manner.

The way we deal with these situations may not always be 'perfect' but we're all human. I doubt that any of us could claim to have handled our anger or hurt in the best way during every situation that has come along in our lives.

For me, personally, I will be leaving any and all important decisions up to the long standing members of this community. They built this community and have put the most effort into this site. I feel they have the most to gain or lose. Therefore, I trust them to decide what is best since they were the reason I was originally intrigued by Buffistas in the first place.

Where do I find the previous Bureaucracy thread?

It's showing up in the general thread listing in "Buffistas Home".

Are we discussing the specific situation here or in the Lightbulb thread (where I haven't gotten yet)? Or is the Lightbulb thread being theoretical?