I was harrassed by Sunil many years ago, and cut off all contact. I haven't thought of this incident in a very long time (this was over 10 years ago), but knowing now that I am not the only woman on this board who has been made to feel uncomfortable by Sunil's inappropriate behavior, here it is.

It began after I offered him my couch for the night when he was passing through NYC, and for weeks afterwards I was barraged by multiple daily emails from him which were inappropriately personal and very unwelcome. I told him to stop, and he not only continued to email me, but also started emailing my husband. During this time, he also posted a recap of the trip on the board (in Natter or Bitches, I think) which included bragging about his self-control in not looking down my shirt while he was a guest in my house. (I found out about this through backchannel, as I had already blocked him so I wouldn't have to encounter his creepy stalker bullshit by accident, or be tempted to engage.) I had already stopped posting in threads where he was a frequent poster, in order to avoid any more drama. At this point, I also blocked Sunil from ever emailing me again (I deleted all of his previous emails and set up a filter to send all future emails immediately to the trash) and significantly

(And Sunil, if you see this, I don't want an apology, so don't bother. All I want is for other women you've harrassed to know they're not alone, and for women you haven't gotten to yet to be warned.)

I agree, just my observation on consensus vs. vote.

also putting a bug on my brain that we might need to revisit vote requirements in this day of multiple social media and no active show community.

I read that policy as saying banning is actually a function of the Stompy Feet, so doing it by consensus/acclamation here seems fine to me.

Stompy Feet are Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych, msbelle_Rebecca, shrift, Dana, Laura - so I actually think it's important that Jon (and others, of course) have a chance to review.

Thanks for posting that, Jess.

Thank you, Jess. I know that it isn't easy to come forward.

I'm so sorry that happened, Jess. I had no idea.

Yes, thanks, it can't have been easy to talk about. Appreciate the concrete example though.

I read that policy as saying banning is actually a function of the Stompy Feet, so doing it by consensus/acclamation here seems fine to me.

Either consensus or vote is fine with me.

I'm stunned. But, I know better than to doubt the people here.

If it must be done, then it must be done.

very sad.

Dcp and I cross posted- I agree after reading that that banning is not a voting issue.

Thank you Jessica for posting that. I too, had no idea.