Sure, blame me.

I AM NOT FRENCH

Well, because I don't forget all the things I like about Aimee when I'm talking to her. It's really no different than saying "this person has/doesn't have my respect." Except it is different because it acknowledges that "respect" is not an either/or, but something that comes in degrees.

Yeah, I know. I just....I don't know. I *know* social capital is real and valuable, especially in a community such as this. But sometimes, it feels...it sometimes feels like "person X has no social capital with me so I can say/post whatever I want as long as it's not too troll-y." I don't have specific incidents of this in mind and I don't know that it's ever happened to me and I know this isn't the true topic at hand (anymore qualifiers? No? Ok, I can close parantheses), but sometimes, it feels that way.

Shrug.

I AM NOT FRENCH

But it is your fault, right?

I am going to call them Allyson Fries and Allyson Toast.

"person X has no social capital with me so I can say/post whatever I want as long as it's not too troll-y."

Yeah, but the word for that behavior is "rude." Treating people disrespectfully is still the same. I don't think social capital as an idea justifies rudeness. I think it describes the notion which Allyson has always promulgated which is that you cut slack for the people you know because you know where they're coming from. Their comments come with context. Newbie comments do not have a bank of context in which to judge them. That doesn't mean that we dismiss them out of hand.

Yeah, but the word for that behavior is "rude." Treating people disrespectfully is still the same. I don't think social capital as an idea justifies rudeness.

I agree. I'm just saying sometimes it feels like that to me. This might be/is an "Aimee" thing.

I think it describes the notion which Allyson has always promulgated which is that you cut slack for the people you know because you know where they're coming from.

I agree. It's also useful to not cut them slack when they're are being an asshat.

I dunno, Aimee. I think I'd be a lot harder on ita or Kat or Kristen on the board if they pissed me off here than I would on some newbie. Because that would actually hurt, you know?

If someone I respect makes me feel like dying inside, the lash out is going to be far more meaningful, anyway.

I had to walk away from the keyboard the other day when tavella was pissing me off. I think I would have hung around and gone nuts if you had, because you actually mean something to me, where she doesn't.

YhissyfitsMV

It's also useful to not cut them slack when they're are being an asshat.

Particularly if they have a consistent history of asshat-edness.

I think the idea of social capital just pings people who are self-conscious about how they're coming off. Like everybody's running around with a counter judging people.

gives Aimee two up-clicks for reasonable responses. gives Rio her daily upclick for being so damn cute.

I think the idea of social capital just pings people who are self-conscious about how they're coming off. Like everybody's running around with a counter judging people.

I have one of those dials people use for audience testing.