Everybody dies, Tracey. Someone's carrying a bullet for you right now, doesn't even know it. The trick is to die of old age before it finds you.

Mal ,'The Message'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


megan walker - Jul 11, 2025 1:46:16 pm PDT #8255 of 8577
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

Also got purple first today.

I have no idea what FODMAP means.

The F is for fermentable and then each other letter is a different category of short-chain carb (sugar). And then there are subcategories (e.g., lactose is under the disaccharides umbrella). Apparently many (most?) people actually only have problems with one or two of the categories or subcategories and this book helps you figure out which ones since it is not intuitive at all which foods might fall in which categories (and there are a lot of bad lists out there). Like, most nuts are low FODMAP but cashews and pistachios are high while almonds are only high if eaten in certain quantities.

Maybe I should learn. ETA my library does not have that book but I have been requesting things like mad and it seems like they then get them more often than I expected, so I'll try that with this....

I mean, if you like rabbit holes... sure. I only got the book because the author is a guest on one of the nutrition podcasts I listen to. But it was sort of fascinating in that, while I didn't have major issues to resolve, and didn't do the elimination part at all, I did end up thinking it explained minor issues I had noticed over the years.


Laura - Jul 11, 2025 1:56:22 pm PDT #8256 of 8577
Our wings are not tired.

Also got purple first today.

It simply delights me that so many of us saw purple first today.


-t - Jul 11, 2025 1:59:12 pm PDT #8257 of 8577
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I am endlessly interested in how my body reacts to what I eat. The nut allergy especially because the things I know are problems are not related and not technically nuts (I don't think) so figuring out what's ok and what's not is just a lot of who even knows? Do I feel like taking chances or playing it safe?


megan walker - Jul 11, 2025 2:27:44 pm PDT #8258 of 8577
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

It simply delights me that so many of us saw purple first today.

Well, I often get purple early but now I often do it as a strategy (i.e., "What idiotic category have they come up with this time?"). I look for the one or two really unusual words and try to see (or hear) the pattern.


aurelia - Jul 11, 2025 8:48:01 pm PDT #8259 of 8577
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.

I got green first, but purple was second.


brenda m - Jul 11, 2025 9:45:41 pm PDT #8260 of 8577
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

I did too, then completely failed on the other ones.

Got the purple, then had to really work for the others.


askye - Jul 12, 2025 7:11:57 am PDT #8261 of 8577
Thrive to spite them

Megan thanks for the food and cookbook suggestions.

I don't know if it was something I ate yesterday or I have a stomach bug but I am miserable right now. I had a mini meltdown when I got home and M was really sweet and supportive and trying to be helpful and I had to finally say I am not looking for solutions I'm just venting and emotional (I've been very emotional this past week ). He ended up going to Walmart and buying a lot of healthy stuff. Although some of it I'm not sure if it will work for me but I'm going to try it. He got whole wheat bagels, some swedish whole grain crackers, Weather's candies, activa yogurt, vegan ice cream, whipped honey spread. Just all kinds of stuff

This morning I had most of the bagel with the tiniest smear of honey spread and some silk coconut milk. I'll see what happen. I'm going to try and not make myself crazy and just go back to trying to make small changes instead of super drastic ones.

I have had almost no caffeine since Tuesday evening. And no carbonated drinks which is huge for me.


Shir - Jul 13, 2025 1:28:40 am PDT #8262 of 8577
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Hi all. I'm sorry to barge in out of the blue with a difficult question, but these are the cards I have today.

I got a concerning email from a friend in Seattle who is mentally struggling. Other than directing her to a crisis line and offering to talk with her, is there anything I can do from abroad? I have her number (but I'm abroad so she can't receive texts or calls from me) and her address (and again, I'm abroad so I can't knock on her door). I was wondering if you happen to have other ideas.

Edited: I eventually remembered that you can call people based on their emails via Google Meet, so I'm trying that.


Laura - Jul 13, 2025 5:47:10 am PDT #8263 of 8577
Our wings are not tired.

WhatsApp works well too.


Calli - Jul 13, 2025 6:05:00 am PDT #8264 of 8577
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Theresa’s going to be a Nichelle Nichols space camp! [link]