I probably would have noticed that before getting very far. Probably.

Call it a deliberate fashion choice and just go with it.

I have a pile of onerousness that has landed on me today, and I just feel like all the onerous tasks could be spread out through the week. I have to: (1) see the dentist later because my dental implant (which doesn't have a crown yet) is poking through my gum a little, and that just doesn't seem right; (2) wrangle insurance nonsense for the bill from when I went to urgent care in Colorado; (3) manage all of the pre-op stuff for my dad's surgery next week (standard prostate stuff for an elderly man), because he doesn't read any of the mail they send him, and/or he assumes that the instructions don't apply to him (yes, Dad, when they tell you to get a pre-op physical, you need to actually do that, not just say "I've been feeling pretty good lately, so I don't need to do that," or they will cancel your surgery, you dumbass).

And then, you know, regular work on top of all of that. It's a bit much.

Also, I am thisclose to having lost 20 pounds (yay!), and my Covid weight-gain jeans do literally fall off me when they're buttoned and zipper, but my pre-Covid jeans still don't fit well (I can technically button and zip them, but they are tight). I'm not really a leggings gal, so since the weather is getting cooler, I apparently am just going to wear joggers everywhere.

manage all of the pre-op stuff for my dad's surgery

Steph, also consider making preparations, and preparing *him*, for post-op care and aftercare needs.

Steph, also consider making preparations, and preparing *him*, for post-op care and aftercare needs.

Oh yeah, I do have all the info that the pre-op nurse sent through MyChart, including things like wear sweatpants, not fitted pants, because he will want comfy pants after the surgery. Also info on what he can expect as he recovers. We'll go over all of that this weekend.

Call it a deliberate fashion choice and just go with it.

That's my plan, but I had to share my actual mortification somewhere safe.

That is a lot of onerousness all hitting at once, Tep. Good luck with your dad

he will want comfy pants after the surgery

Also think about questions such as:

• Will he be able to tolerate a seat belt in the car on the ride home?
  
• Will he have a catheter at home? For how long? Will he need extra bags? Will he need to make changes to his sleeping arrangements?

eta: These are a couple of topics that are commonly mentioned in my prostate cancer support groups as things that guys weren't prepared for.

Thanks, dcp -- I definitely hadn't thought of those. I'll make a list to follow up on.

Dentist visit involved unexpected oral surgery -- the implant (noun) failed, which just means it didn't implant (verb) in my jaw and decided to leave the premises. The dentist said that can happen, and he gave me a different type of bone graft, and I'll get a replacement implant in a few weeks. The upside to unexpected oral surgery is that the dentist played David Bowie.

More zombified jaw?

Yeah, apparently the first bone graft was bovine, but today's was human zombie bone graft. I didn't realize I was part cow. But now I am more zombie than cow. What a day.