I-I'm just taking things without paying for th... In what twisted dictionary is that stealing?

Willow ,'Showtime'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Steph L. - Oct 24, 2024 9:41:17 am PDT #3061 of 4162
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Also, I am thisclose to having lost 20 pounds (yay!), and my Covid weight-gain jeans do literally fall off me when they're buttoned and zipper, but my pre-Covid jeans still don't fit well (I can technically button and zip them, but they are tight). I'm not really a leggings gal, so since the weather is getting cooler, I apparently am just going to wear joggers everywhere.


dcp - Oct 24, 2024 9:46:18 am PDT #3062 of 4162
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.

manage all of the pre-op stuff for my dad's surgery

Steph, also consider making preparations, and preparing *him*, for post-op care and aftercare needs.


Steph L. - Oct 24, 2024 9:49:04 am PDT #3063 of 4162
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Steph, also consider making preparations, and preparing *him*, for post-op care and aftercare needs.

Oh yeah, I do have all the info that the pre-op nurse sent through MyChart, including things like wear sweatpants, not fitted pants, because he will want comfy pants after the surgery. Also info on what he can expect as he recovers. We'll go over all of that this weekend.


-t - Oct 24, 2024 11:00:27 am PDT #3064 of 4162
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Call it a deliberate fashion choice and just go with it.

That's my plan, but I had to share my actual mortification somewhere safe.

That is a lot of onerousness all hitting at once, Tep. Good luck with your dad


dcp - Oct 24, 2024 11:17:57 am PDT #3065 of 4162
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.

he will want comfy pants after the surgery

Also think about questions such as:

  • Will he be able to tolerate a seat belt in the car on the ride home?
  • Will he have a catheter at home? For how long? Will he need extra bags? Will he need to make changes to his sleeping arrangements?

eta: These are a couple of topics that are commonly mentioned in my prostate cancer support groups as things that guys weren't prepared for.


Steph L. - Oct 24, 2024 1:20:56 pm PDT #3066 of 4162
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Thanks, dcp -- I definitely hadn't thought of those. I'll make a list to follow up on.

Dentist visit involved unexpected oral surgery -- the implant (noun) failed, which just means it didn't implant (verb) in my jaw and decided to leave the premises. The dentist said that can happen, and he gave me a different type of bone graft, and I'll get a replacement implant in a few weeks. The upside to unexpected oral surgery is that the dentist played David Bowie.


-t - Oct 24, 2024 2:12:33 pm PDT #3067 of 4162
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

More zombified jaw?


Steph L. - Oct 24, 2024 2:15:10 pm PDT #3068 of 4162
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Yeah, apparently the first bone graft was bovine, but today's was human zombie bone graft. I didn't realize I was part cow. But now I am more zombie than cow. What a day.


Theodosia - Oct 24, 2024 2:43:51 pm PDT #3069 of 4162
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

Yikes, Steph! I'm way way overdue for dental work.


JenP - Oct 24, 2024 3:21:44 pm PDT #3070 of 4162

I shall follow your implant story with interest, Steph, since that will be my next step (hoping it will be a successful one) after I get my braces off.

Voted just now and am finishing up dinner out. Treat yo'self-style.