I actually adored him or I would not have done all that for him! He was just needy

In other news, the keys are found! I repeat the keys are found. In the purse I took to the funeral, which I had checked several times before, but there they were.

That happens to me with my purse, which is ridiculous because it isn't even a large bag! @@ But yay keys!!

Yay keys!!

Yay for found keys!

Quiet day. I have fetched my sister from the airport. Doing chores and running around.

I'm really glad the Justin Timberlake-ramen connection turned out to be his hair, because that's what first came to my mind, and then I thought, "Cindy, you're just mean."

I'm still mean, but at least I have company.

Teppy, I hope the mold problem is easily fixed. Therapy sounds like a good idea.

In other news, the keys are found! I repeat the keys are found. In the purse I took to the funeral, which I had checked several times before, but there they were.

I have a Pooka too, Sophia.

Tep, IJWTS I am so sorry you are feeling shame about the mold. And I'm sorry about the mold, but I am so angry at the world for creating all this shame about it. I hope the remediation is not too bad an experience and just a lot of love to you and Tim

Drew, I just want to say you are the best theatre arts employer I have ever encountered! You supply laptops! You think of your workers. You are just the perfect person to own a sound business!

Seriously

Sophia, you and David are both very kind. I just consider my employees the most important part of my business. I don't always get it right, that's certain, but I do at least try. It was the deal I made with myself when I started a business. I'm going to do this that way I think a business ought to run, and treat people they way I think is right. If I fail under that model, then I'm okay with failing. I'm certainly not comfortable being "successful" by not treating people as well as I can.

Tep, IJWTS I am so sorry you are feeling shame about the mold. And I'm sorry about the mold, but I am so angry at the world for creating all this shame about it. I hope the remediation is not too bad an experience and just a lot of love to you and Tim

Thank you! We had a long conversation about how we've both been kind of downplaying -- and really, really can't afford to downplay anymore -- the fact that we both have (1) chronic illnesses, (2) executive dysfunction, and (3) depression and anxiety. Oh, and bonus Covid. And all of that means that there is some stuff we just can't do anymore (his joints are fucked and my back will exit the building for days if I get on my hands and knees to scrub hard-to-reach spots on the bathroom and kitchen floors), and some stuff (depression, executive dysfunction) that means we just need some help. We've both been working our asses off the past few years and can easily afford to hire a cleaner on a regular basis (after the mold remediation/deep cleaning), so we're going to do that.

It's just hard to admit there's shit we can't do, especially when it's basic household maintenance stuff. But it is what it is. And we still do what we can do; we just can't do everything.

The hoarding is a little harder*, and we had a talk about him getting some therapy, and he's considering it. I'll keep pushing the idea.

*(He has to get rid of -- and is -- most of the hoard in the office. But getting rid of the physical stuff doesn't address the underlying issue. And he knows that. It's just a lot for him to process.)

If you cannot make your own household maintenance, store-bought is ok

Which is something I also need to work on accepting, but kudos to you for finding a path forward! If it would help, you can always tell Tim the invisible people in the box support therapy in email.