For my family, the wake is the day or two before, where people come in and talk to the family, offer condolences, do the viewing. The funeral has fewer people attend, especially if it's a full mass.
Tell me more good stuff about me.
Kaylee ,'The Message'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Dana - Apr 09, 2021 10:48:20 am PDT #5415 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
Dana - Apr 09, 2021 10:48:54 am PDT #5416 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
I'm sorry to hear about your cousin, askye.
JenP - Apr 09, 2021 10:49:45 am PDT #5417 of 30000
I don't know what my people (whatever Venn diagram that is) call the after funeral gathering.
Sophia, I'm sorry for your loss and Maria's, and what a comfort you clearly are and have been for both.
Sophia Brooks - Apr 09, 2021 11:11:57 am PDT #5418 of 30000
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here
I know I am dealing with grief by being oddly fixated on procedure and nomenclature
JZ - Apr 09, 2021 11:15:52 am PDT #5419 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
I'm so sorry, askye. I'm definitely vibing for things to go well with the children's services visit with Jay's girlfriend; adoption into a stable, loving family he already knows would be a mercifully good outcome for his son from all this sadness, and if it ends up benefiting the son's sisters as well that would be incredible.
Laura - Apr 09, 2021 11:25:45 am PDT #5420 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
I'm sorry, askye. I do hope the powers that be decide to let the girlfriend adopt the son.
I didn't have any wake or funeral for Stephen, but his sister offered to host a memorial gathering at her home. She had a fabulous waterfront home in Fort Lauderdale and she had hosted my wedding reception, so she wondered if that would be okay. It was perfect. Same people, same setting, lots of good food and loving people. I did invite a priest to come and give a eulogy for his father's comfort, and he led the more formal aspect of people coming up and sharing their remembrances. Mostly it was just a party, and a chance for us to console each other without funeral directors or churches involved. It is what I would want for myself. Stephen himself refused to discuss the possibility of death so he was no help at all!
-t - Apr 09, 2021 11:25:58 am PDT #5421 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
That's a not uncommon thing, Sophia. Kinda why we have a lot of procedure and nomenclature in the first place, really.
I hope that works out, askye.
-t - Apr 09, 2021 11:58:34 am PDT #5422 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
The zero and o keys are way too close together. Who made that decision?
Toddson - Apr 09, 2021 12:19:20 pm PDT #5423 of 30000
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
Possibly dating back to the days of typewriters when a capital "O" and "0" could be - and were - used interchangeably.
Theodosia - Apr 09, 2021 12:32:36 pm PDT #5424 of 30000
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
I'm so old that I remember when you used an lower-case L for a 1.