I'm a big girl. Just tell me.

Inara ,'Objects In Space'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


brenda m - Mar 04, 2021 3:45:06 pm PST #4178 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Phew, you guys, it's been a day.

So my manager S - who I talked to like two, three times a year the past couple of years - was apparently failing on the job for a while. Just before xmas someone called his manager J to say it seemed like he was struggling on a project. When the manager reached out to him he basically said "you should probably go ahead and fire me now". And then a lot started coming out about how very much he was just not doing.

Some backstory: Steve was the national lead for our proposal teams. We both used to lead a regional team and I'm fairly sure I was maneuvered out of the way when they decided to create the national leadership role several years ago. (It took me a loong time to get over my anger about the white male mediocrity of it all, and honestly I was pretty checked out for a while myself.)

This time, it was a competitive process with both internal and external candidates, and it feels pretty good to come out on top. It's different leadership too, and an expanded role. Now I gotta really step up my game. (Not least because I'll have three direct reports who also applied for the position. Eep)


brenda m - Mar 04, 2021 3:45:53 pm PST #4179 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

[Edited to remove what I think is a deadname.] Their drag name was Pat Riarch, based in North Carolina. Now goes by Neeve Neevel, and I'm not sure about pronouns.


JenP - Mar 04, 2021 4:14:05 pm PST #4180 of 30000

Yes, meara. I knew you went there. I thought you knew that about me, too, for some reason. I was there before you, though.


-t - Mar 04, 2021 4:15:05 pm PST #4181 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Wow, brenda, I am even more happy for you knowing that little bit of background!

So, my phone shut down sometime in the night and won't turn on and I presume it's that my one and only charging cable went bad but the reason I am telling you this is so you can understand how very silly I am for carrying around my phone and the cable all day long just in case it will suddenly decide to start working again. I did figure out how to set an alarm on my Kindle for tomorrow morning, though, so that's something.


megan walker - Mar 04, 2021 4:42:09 pm PST #4182 of 30000
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

My ears! My ears! How they burn.

I am occasionally (ok, rarely) here. But I finally have a manageable work schedule so I am hoping to stop by more often, or at least in more places than Movies. In any case, timelies everyone!

Yes, Dani is new e/em/eir pronouns.

Thank you for answering this question for me! I just proofed something for em and had to go back to my Christmas card to make sure I hadn't been missing this for years or something. (Which, let's face it, is very possible.) Most of our communication is by phone so it hasn't come up I guess? This is one of the downsides to not being on FB I suppose.

Former poster or poster in other threads Megan Walker also went to college with you all then, I think.

I can't believe I did not know this. I mean, I can, but I'm still surprised. I had no clue. Now I want to get out my yearbook. (D and I were in the same freshman dorm. D & S met at a party in my first place in NY and then that is how I met msbelle's brother, and, eventually, msbelle. She's the one that told me about TT I think. And then we went to the very first NY f2f together so we could have each other's backs in case one of you all was an axe murderer.)

Wait I know where megan walker went to college, I thought. Jen did you go there too? Maybe I’m remembering wrong.

You are not remembering wrong.


msbelle - Mar 04, 2021 4:49:57 pm PST #4183 of 30000
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb

Megan I don't think I went to a NY F2F with you. I went to Fiona's apartment for a Buffy watch, but that was before you were on the board wasn't it?


megan walker - Mar 04, 2021 4:56:59 pm PST #4184 of 30000
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

I went to Fiona's apartment for a Buffy watch, but that was before you were on the board wasn't it?

Yes, that is what I meant. I was there, goddammit. Martha might have been with us too? I was on the board, but I only lurked on TT until it was time to leave and then I think I made one post just because. By that time, many NYistas were hanging out regularly.


erin_obscure - Mar 04, 2021 5:11:40 pm PST #4185 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange

Congrats Brenda!!!!


Jesse - Mar 04, 2021 5:15:42 pm PST #4186 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Congrats, brenda! That's awesome.

msbelle, I'm so sorry. Terrible.

My small-world one is smonster being on a college team with my cousin, but I think that's all I've got.


megan walker - Mar 04, 2021 5:22:23 pm PST #4187 of 30000
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

Also, congrats to Brenda on the job news as well as everyone who is getting vaccinated or making appointments! I can't wait to get mine but I'm also not looking forward to the nightmare that making an appointment seems to be.