So I guess I'm asking, Does everybody have a "if I died tomorrow my estate (such as it is) would not be a horror show for my surviving family members (including passwords)" file or folder designated as such?

Because ultimately everybody is going to have a tomorrow they don't see.

[sigh...] We're just mayflies in the scheme of things.

My aunt and uncle are both in the hospital now. My uncle has been there for several weeks, with cancer. And my aunt just went after my cousin finally convinced her to do a video appointment with her cardiologist (which my cousin set up, because my aunt "doesn't like computer stuff" and doesn't have a smartphone) and her cardiologist said she had to go to the hospital. She's got heart failure, and they're keeping her there for a few days at least.

{{{Hil's aunt and uncle}}} And all your family too. How incredibly stressful and scary.

Our dad's girlfriend later explained why there was a safe in the basement with thousands of dollars and essential documents: The two of them had gotten increasingly freaked over how badly the previous administration was running the entire country over a cliff, and they decided together that it would be a good idea to not only keep their passports up to date but also have a stash of go money close at hand just in case the previous occupant decided to really set it all on fire.

Ah, poor kitten, baffled by that incomprehensible bowl.

Yikes glad you found the wallet, David!!

I am actually glad for once that the puppy woke me up, I was having a crazy stressful dream about being trapped in some foreign country during a civil war/coup? There were soldiers parading down the streets and I was trying to get ahead of them, and there were two little girls I was semi-responsible for, and had no idea what I was doing. Whew. Here’s hoping I don’t get that when I fall back asleep!

I have a small file box with our essential documents (passports, birth certificates, social security cards) and paper copies of logins and passwords for a lot of online things. I should update it, a little. I don't have cash in it, and I don't think I would keep any now. Maybe if I got more worried. I am currently trying to game when to renew mr. flea's passport, which expires in April. Routine service currently takes 12 weeks by mail, expedited 4-6 weeks. I didn't want to send it off until we got safely through the inauguration, but I'm still a little wary. I know this is not that rational.

Re: 40 hours a week of homework, the thing about homework is it's not easy to assess how much time it actually takes. My kids attend the same school and Dillo is in a harder tier of classes and can do the majority of his homework during class/during study halls. When Casper was in the same grade she was doing multiple hours of homework a night. Her brain just works in a very different way from his. When Dillo needs multiple hours to do an assignments, it's because he needs to whine loudly for three hours, driving his parents to the verge of insanity (an audience is key to his process), and then complete the assignment in 15 minutes. Casper can also procrastinate with the best of them, but she genuinely needs a lot of time to chug through things.

One of Dillo's friends got enrolled in a local Moderna trial for kids 12-17, so I'm going to try and get both kids signed up. I think it's safe as houses for teens, and if we do go back to school in person it would be some peace of mind.

Hil, I'm so sorry to hear that! Hospital is not a good place to be.

JZ's brother was only able to find a hidden safe in their dad's house after his death because he found a cryptic note in a kitchen drawer that looked like a combination. It was. Thousands of dollars and essential car papers were found.

This sounds exactly like an escape room I played a few years ago.

The DH and I both have official and unofficial "If I get hit by a bus" stuff in order. We have wills and power of attorney forms filed and living wills. This is all recommended by State, since they are sending us to random places that may have high violence, interesting diseases, and terrorists who want to kill us.

But none of the official guidance takes into account how much of life is digital now, so he keeps a spreadsheet of passwords (not that I know the password to his computer, but I know people who know people who could get me in) and I use LastPass and he has both the password to that and my computer passwords. He'll never be able to access my phone for contact info, but my son can.

He's aware he needs to notify the Buffistas if I die.

I also have an "If I get hit by the lottery" file at my job.

So I guess I'm asking, Does everybody have a "if I died tomorrow my estate (such as it is) would not be a horror show for my surviving family members (including passwords)" file or folder designated as such?

I do not but I'm aware that I should.

A large portion of my important personal documents are save in Lastpass, and I have family sharing set up with many family members.

This sounds exactly like an escape room I played a few years ago.

Bonus: The safe was in the basement, but an unfinished portion behind a weird small door, with a padlock (fortunately not locked) on it, set in the concrete floor.

Ugh, Tim tested positive for Covid. There have been a lot more cases at his work, where those assholes don't wear masks regularly (although Tim always does). Anyway. His symptoms are basically like a cold or sinus infection right now, but his doctor, who is extremely vigilant with Tim's health, wants him to go get an infusion of the monoclonal antibody treatment, since Tim takes immunosuppressants. Which is a smart idea.

I made an appointment to get tested tomorrow (the soonest I can get tested). Since Wednesday, I've had what I assumed was a cold, but I guess we'll see.

God damn it.