I don't really have a security blanket... unless you count Mr. Pointy.

Buffy ,'Lessons'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


-t - Dec 28, 2023 3:33:55 pm PST #27705 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Argh. Just got an email from a head of brand asking myteam to do something by next Wednesday that I, for one, do not see how we could possibly do it or why we would even be involved, but my boss has taken the rest of today and tomorrow off, and my other teammate is gone for the day and our VP is on vacation. I'm not going to answer. Hopefully someone else will check their email by tomorrow. If no one else says anything by EOD tomorrow I will just panic, I guess.


dcp - Dec 28, 2023 3:43:55 pm PST #27706 of 30000
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.

I, for one, do not see how we could possibly do it or why we would even be involved,

How about replying, "This needs to be cleared by [boss], and they won't be available until Monday" with a separate email punting the issue to [boss] saying, "Do you know why they think we should be involved? Do you know who the right team is, to do this work?

My last boss was very averse to any team trying to dump their work on us. Helping out was okay -- if they asked nicely, and cleared it in advance.


-t - Dec 28, 2023 4:04:27 pm PST #27707 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I may say something like that tomorrow (although "until Tuesday" because holiday) if no one else responds. The request is to my whole team and our VP and the sales team and some of Marketing and maybe someone in one of those groups is working tomorrow and knows who this would belong to.


DavidS - Dec 28, 2023 6:00:19 pm PST #27708 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Maine has kicked Trump off the ballot for sedition.

This is all going to be decided by Trump's Supreme Court, but I'm enjoying this part.

Matilda and I cleaned house today and ate leftover Bouef Bourguignon, which I recommend on a dreary December day.

I'm very sorry about your kitty, lisah. It is heartbreaking.


quester - Dec 28, 2023 10:18:00 pm PST #27709 of 30000
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.

thanks for the birthday happies!

Pix, awful have the whole country between you and you dad and his care. lisah, sorry for your loss.


Shir - Dec 29, 2023 12:43:17 am PST #27710 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

lisah, I'm so sorry. My condolences.

Pix, all of the ~mas to you, your dad, and Drew.

And thank you, everyone, for your words.

Having an office near Tel Aviv means I have coworkers there, as I've mentioned.

Do you know where are they located?


Steph L. - Dec 29, 2023 8:06:29 am PST #27711 of 30000
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

Holy shit, Ohio's republican governor just vetoed a bill that would have banned gender-affirming health care! I'm stunned. And so, so grateful. Wow!


Laura - Dec 29, 2023 9:09:33 am PST #27712 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

That really was stunning. I thought I had misread the news alert. Nice to be surprised.


-t - Dec 29, 2023 9:21:43 am PST #27713 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Pretty darn good news! I feel like he's come through with unexpectedly doing the right thing before? Don't remember what it was, though.

Unrelatedly, I am doing the dance of someone-else-answered-the-email-I-didn't-how-to-respond-to, hooray!


Pix - Dec 29, 2023 9:21:49 am PST #27714 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

I hate this. Hospitals are always hard, but hospitals when my dad is out of his mind are a living hell for both of us. I'm not posting this on social media because I don't want to air this much private stuff, but I hate this so much. Dad can't go to the bathroom by himself. He's in a diaper. He can't feed himself without help. He doesn't know where he is and keeps being very worried about things that aren't in the here and now. He is incoherent — it's like when he had a stroke before; he can't find words and keeps making statements and asking about things that make no sense (worried he's lost his keys, obsessed with the blanket on the bed, asking for a fork or his shoes or wanting to call someone to find out where they are). He kept trying to get out of bed, so they moved him next to the nursing station and assigned a sitter to stay with him overnight. They gave him a sedative last night to try to get him to calm down and sleep, and it made him crazy and combative (I warned them a different sedative had this impact, but they tried a different type, and it's the same impact). He claims the overnight sitter was abusive, which I have no way to verify given how out of his mind he was (though I've reported it and spoken to the head nurse, and she's going to investigate it). He desperately wants to go home, but if he doesn't regain his cognition, that's never going to happen. I've dropped his dog off at a boarder for a week, spending money we don't have, because there's no friend who can take him more than a night or two, but if he doesn't get out of rehab and back home in the next week or so, I'm going to have to figure out another solution.

Sorry about the word vomit. I feel awful that I come on here and don't respond to everyone else before spewing my grief and anxiety all over the place.