THat's very cool, Calli

I was feeling not great but I got up and dragged myself to work. Not because I don't have PTO to cover (I have plenty!) but calling out sick is an unexcused absence/occurrence and 3 of those means you will get written up (unless it's special circumstances) and I don't want to play with fate. So I get to work and try to clock in and it won't let me --because I was scheduled this afternoon. After finding the HR lead and my team lead we figured out I could just clock in and work. So that was good.

Sheryl I know this is all really hard but I hope that the residential program works well for Mr. S.

Timelies all!

Mr. S had a major meltdown last night and ended up strewing potato chips all over the place.(I think it was started by him losing a game of Pokemon)

We have a bunch of forms to fill out for the program.

I did an ancestry.com DNA test a couple years back, so I've traced my genealogy a bit via their site. As far as lack of forks in the family tree, I discovered that my paternal grandparents were third cousins, but also that I myself have a TON of third cousins out there whose existence I never suspected and can easily imagine a world in which I met and dated one of them with no clue of any kinship unless their genealogy researcher cousin happened to compare notes with mine.

I also found a first cousin marriage way back in the late 17th or early 18th century, but that was the Puritan New England branch of the my mother's family that I hadn't even known existed, so take that, every joke I've ever heard made about inbred Southerners.

I send my pay slips to the lawyer so they can send them to worker comp so I can get paid for the time I didn't work. And nothing has happened since my Dec 6th appointment and I didn't receive a check from workers comp for last paycheck so I told the lawyer and asked what was up with everything.

Turns out the claim adjuster doesn't work there anymore so the check fell through the cracks with the turn over and the neuro opthomlogist's info wasn't clear about a new eye glass prescription being related to my injury. Turns out that my right lens was the wrong prescription and the only thing he paid attention to was that my double vision has changed. So I need new prisms but that's it . Th3 lawyer said it looks doubtful that workers comp will cover a new prescription. It's really frustrating because I didn't have issues until after the concussion amd some problems I explained happened even without my glasses. But it looks like I'll lose that.

The Dr's note is also lost and the new claims adjuster I guess is working on me getging a new neurologist. So it's frustrating. And mostly going no where.

But if they aren't going to cover the glasses I want to know so I can go ahead and get new ones and see better.

I played around with Ancestry website and there is one ancestor where the trial just stops. I think it's my paternal grandfather's grandfather . But on the only records that can be found his first and last name are the same. The documents that can be found are with the double name and there aren't many of them. Every family tree I could find with this man on it just stops there.

And my grandfather never really knew his father because my great grandmother divorced him (or he divorced her but there was a divorce) and never spoke about him again. To the point where my grandfather didn't know how to spell his own last name and didn't ask when he started school so he just guessed the spelling. ( My great grandmother had either remarried at this point and been widowed or was remarried and her husband was alive or she had gone back to using her maiden name I'm not sure which one was the case that no mail came to them with our last name on it).

And then there is the ancestor whoo may have married his aunt, his mother (half?) sister

This is on mom's side. What I could find is this guy who is married to a woman who has the same parents as his mother. Excpet when I went digging around Ancestry there were some family trees that showed this. Some that showed his wife's name with no parents listed and didn't have a sibling listed for his mother with his wife's name . Some had no sisterslisted for his wife but showed his mother having the youngest childi with the same name and either the same or almost the same birth year. The math added up for the possible aunt-wife to be his mothers sister. They were 20 years apart in age and the entries that listed an age for the dude and his wife showed she was older than him (even when they didn't show a relationship between his wife and his mother ).

So that makes me wonder if it's just some weird mix up that someone did on Ancestry that got added around or what was going on but I don't think I'll ever know. I do know that people get records wrong. I had seen a couple people who had Grandma E's name, birth date, parents etc saying she died in the 90s and had a different picture and maybe a different husband. I did contact 2 people about it and one had gotten the info from the other, she thanked me and corrected it. The other person never contacted me.

I did a ton of genealogy research before my father’s actual family found me. And now it is fraught and causes me stress, which is sad, because I loved doing it. My poor sister, because she was just so torn up that her dad had an illegitimate child. But on my mom’s side, it was so much fun to figure out if my great grandma was Nellie, Helen or Cornelia Bourbeau, all which could have been nicknamed Nellie. To be honest, it was the 23 and Me profile which led to the identification, not the Ancestry stuff, but it all got poisoned for me.

Sorry I didn't respond to people: here is the link to my brother's Op-Ed.

Anyway, I came down with a cold last Friday, thought I was over it by Monday, and today I lost my voice during the supervisor's meeting. So now I am whispering to the dogs and considering ordering pho to be delivered.

Today was a getting-stuff-done day for me, including a grocery pickup, cat chow prescription refill, visit to the cable company to find out why I got four bills in one month, and an appointment with my psychiatrist. The latter went well, but I found out the practice has just been sitting on post-insurance bills rather than invoicing me, to the tune of an $800 balance. Not fun to discover just after a move where everyone has been holding their hand out, though the receptionist seemed fine with me waiting a bit to pay it off. On the plus side, I found out I've lost another 6 lbs. since mid-December. May this trend continue through the first half of the year!