I'm shamelessly promoting my Adios 2022 post, because it was hard, and I want your empathy.

I just read it! Sweetheart, that is A LOT. Too much, in fact. Being the caretaker for a parent is hard enough when their temperament is good (or even neutral). But when they're difficult, mean, or suddenly a dirty old man (in the case of my FIL), it's really really fucking hard. Honestly, I'm glad that Covid gave you a break from mom duty.

I love you so much.

Woo hoo! (Also, I need ATTENTION in the year-end thread.)

I just read it! Sweetheart, that is A LOT. Too much, in fact. Being the caretaker for a parent is hard enough when their temperament is good (or even neutral). But when they're difficult, mean, or suddenly a dirty old man (in the case of my FIL), it's really really fucking hard. Honestly, I'm glad that Covid gave you a break from mom duty.

She was so mean. I would have left her, but I knew it was (mostly) the drugs making her mean. I am sorry DH had COVID for his sake, but otherwise? I am grateful. This was abuse.

Honestly, I'm supposed to see her Sunday (10 days after DH tested negative), but I kind of don't want to. I will, because I'm that kind of kid, but man.

When my dad was in the hospital in May, he was literally out of his mind, talking to hallucinations and being really shitty to me (with a bonus of Dadpenis because he was thrashing around in the hospital bed and the gown rode up and exposed him [if I could selectively remove the brain cells with that memory, I would]). It’s just awful when parents are in a vulnerable state and need care but are mean at the same time.

Thanks, Teppy.

I just wish my mom's docs looked like Charisma Carpenter.

Mom was fucking awful. The opioids were the worst of it (that is, once we removed them, she was more human).

But besides that, I'm so injured. I've never known what to do when she's suggested she's at the root of my anxiety disorder.

Now? My answer is to lie.

Also, yes Jesus. We DO NOT WANT TO SEE THEIR GENITALS.

Mom was fucking awful.

Oh, honey, I'm so with you. You are not to blame, and I know you know that. You are allowed to feel what you feel. Be kind to yourself.

[snipping all the ranty shit I just typed about my own mother: it's been nearly a decade since she died and I'm still angry]

Thank you, Connie!

(It is really hard for me to be honest about this.)

Cindy, I would fly across the country just to wrap you in my arms, if I could afford it and it wouldn't distress you and your family. I won't give you advice, because everyone needs different things, but I will tell you wholeheartedly that I love you and I'm glad you're here.

Bubble wrap for the lot of you, I say. Both emotionally and physically. Thank you for being here for me; I hope that I can return the favour -- it's good to be among friends.