Death is your art. You make it with your hands day after day. That final gasp, that look of peace. And part of you is desperate to know: What's it like? Where does it lead you? And now you see, that's the secret. Not the punch you didn't throw or the kicks you didn't land. She really wanted it. Every Slayer has a death wish. Even you.

Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


JZ - Jan 15, 2023 4:07:28 am PST #19967 of 30000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.

Night shift. Lonely and frightened.


dcp - Jan 15, 2023 5:00:17 am PST #19968 of 30000
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.

Sympathy. Empathy. Comfort from afar.

Not yet caffeinated. The gronk is still strong.


Calli - Jan 15, 2023 6:11:03 am PST #19969 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

I hope you were able to get some sleep, JZ.

Sorry you’re not feeling well, askye.

It’s a cold, clear morning here in NC. I was thinking of taking the bike out, as it’s sunny. But the 31F temps are making me reconsider. It’s been damp lately, and icy patches + bikes = sadness. Maybe later.


Laura - Jan 15, 2023 7:13:18 am PST #19970 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

Happy Birthday msbelle!!! I hope you are having a wonderful day. May the year to come be filled with delight.

eta: I tried several ways to make that pink with no success. Not sure why it doesn't work. See sad face.


JenP - Jan 15, 2023 7:50:59 am PST #19971 of 30000

Happy birthday, msbelle!

JZ, I hope this morning is brighter.


Laura - Jan 15, 2023 8:50:27 am PST #19972 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

Productive day yesterday. I sorted my Christmas decorations and packed 4 large bins for donation. That left 5 bins plus the tree, which a big improvement. I brought 7 over to my sister previously which contained the large ceramic outdoor nativity set that was my mother's. There are still more somewhere because I never came across my mom's indoor nativity set. Today cleaning and prepping for my son's visit. They arrive tomorrow. I did the big food order a few days ago to pick up tomorrow. Lots of stuff planned including going to see The Full Monty and a day at Jungle Island where gf and her sister will do a sloth encounter. They plan on having friends over for movie night, and meeting friends for bowling. Also, he is a big fan of cows so we are making a super cute cow from cupcakes for his birthday. I will take a break from chores and go with DH for billiards day, including watching the Dolphins get beat by the Bills. I did get pretty teal nails to be a fan, but little hope for this game.


DavidS - Jan 15, 2023 11:38:27 am PST #19973 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Easy-peasy, routine, pain-muted ta-ta diminuendo surgery, Susan!


Laura - Jan 15, 2023 11:55:19 am PST #19974 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

Surgery~ma, Susan. I've known other women who have had this and said it was life-changing.


Topic!Cindy - Jan 15, 2023 1:30:02 pm PST #19975 of 30000
What is even happening?

JZ, I'm sorry your diagnosis isn't better. I am thinking of you and praying for you. I am glad your doctor is someone who made a point of reminding you that everyone responds differently.

When C was first diagnosed with Crohn's, he usually had infusions along with another patient at his original gastro's practice. It was a different person every time, but they were older and their outlook was often grim. C is a positive person. One woman insisted upon sharing her horror stories, until I finally said, "You need to stop. He does not need listen to this."

On the way home from that appointment, I told him to remember that his Crohn's is his own, and no one else's. All those other patients were diagnosed before the treatments that are common today were even in use. He shouldn't take their experiences, or even current statistics, as a meaningful prediction for himself.

So that's what I hope you'll remember: you are an individual. This is no one's diagnosis but yours, and no one will have the same experience that you have. No one else's journey can predict yours. No one's response to treatment will be the same as yours.

When I worked at Mass. General, one of the older buildings had a "Medical Arts Building" sign over an archway. I always try to remember that while medicine is science, it's art, too. Love you.


Pix - Jan 15, 2023 2:22:49 pm PST #19976 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

So that's what I hope you'll remember: you are an individual. This is no one's diagnosis but yours, and no one will have the same experience that you have. No one else's journey can predict yours. No one's response to treatment will be the same as yours.

When I worked at Mass. General, one of the older buildings had a "Medical Arts Building" sign over an archway. I always try to remember that while medicine is science, it's art, too. Love you.

Oh, this. How beautifully said, Cindy. And JZ, sending you hugs through the internets. I will be in SF in April and hope to be able to give you a big hug then if you're up for it.

ETA: Susan, just read Beep Me, and I wish you all the best. I, too, have heard from women that it's a life-changing operation in the best possible way.