I need inspiration. I need to name my Otter Lake house.

I don't have suggestions but in case any of this provides inspiration:

My family's original cabin up in Canada is Home Base (the Goldman's down the beach next door is First Base but that's as far as the baseball theme went*). The little cabin next to the big house is Duz & Grum's because it belonged to my mom's grandparents after they built it to let their kids and grandkids take over Home Base. Every single cousin in my generation (who never knew Duz or Grum) grew up hearing the name as "Dozen Grums" and none of us EVER had the balls to ask what a Grum was and why the house was named after twelve of them.

Our neighbors on the other side have Netathca Lodge, which sounds like a First Nations word but is actually made of the original generation's mom and three daughters' names (NETtie, Agnes, THeresa, CAtharine). Down the beach a ways Pamaqua follows a similar convention (Pa, Ma, 4 kids).

The cabin we don't own anymore is called The Three Bears because it looks like exactly what you would expect a log cabin in the middle of the woods to look like. It's like, unfairly adorable and picturesque.

My parent's current cabin is The Palms because that's my dad's sense of humor. The new cabin they are building on that property is No. Beach because it is north of The Palms and it does not have a beach.

*Ironically the Goldman's cabin actually IS right next to first base of the baseball diamond in the field next to their house, but my family's cabin is through the woods in the opposite direction and is older, so I honestly have no idea how we got that name.

And Steph, I am so sorry that asshole Covid ruined your vacation. I think the last (and only) time I've eaten a Filet-o-Fish was in 1999 when I went to a McDonald's in Delhi, and didn't want a Maharajah Mac (like a Big Mac but made with lamb).

Timelies all!

Ugh. Mr. S just wouldn't go to sleep last night. Finally fell asleep around midnight, and was up at 7. Most of the day was fine, and did well at the restaurant we took Gary's mom to for her birthday. Suddenly, while we were driving home he started kicking my seat, pulling my hair and took his seatbelt off. A couple blocks from home Gary pulled over and he and Mr. S walked the rest of the way while I drove. I just don't understand this kid sometimes.

Thank you, David. I have some time to ruminate before we get the sign made. I'll add them to the list.

Love the history, Jess. We have a lot of family contractions here too. My parents called their camp LaJoMaNo for the 4 kids, Laura, John, Mary, and Norene. Of course my 3 siblings were never called by their given names, John was Jim (initials for John Ira Miller), Mary was Judi (Mary Judith) and Norene was Mona (Dad called her Desdemona before she was born but she was named Norene for my aunts Norma and Irene). I was the only one called by my name.

Laura, I think your link is missing www.

Added, although it works for me either way.

My sister advised me not to discuss this family history with my kids, but I think I need to so they have a context and history to understand where they came from, and what to look out for.

If you have a therapist you're working with on the regular, I'd run your thoughts around this past them and see what they say: they aren't going to be horrified, they're a neutral third party who's sworn to confidentiality, and they'd be a good resource for what would be an appropriate level of detail to share.

Speaking for me (and Ken, in a chat window giving permission to share), having context for existing mental health issues - and family backstory that made some of them worse - put a lot of the eldest child thoughts of "I should have managed this situation better" to bed, with a story and cookies and a warm blanket. I was 11 when it all went to hell; I survived it, but I wish those lessons had been taught to me in a gentler way, and I certainly want that for your children.

Added, although it works for me either way.

Hmmm. I get a message about a security cert. issue.

This server couldn't prove that it's www.lakeidadreamhome.com; its security certificate is from www.server304.com. This may be caused by a misconfiguration or an attacker intercepting your connection.

It could be an old certificate as the site was closed months ago. I just used it because it was a handy empty place to upload something.

I have been doing a lot of reading and responding in my head. I really miss having a thing at work called downtime, and the times before reading on the phone or iPad. Sometimes the thought of having to deal with autocorrect for our shared language, names, and abbreviations gets me down and too lazy to respond in the moment.

I got the error too, dcp (but I clicked in because it was Laura). My error was from safari, and that someone might be trying to get my financial info.

That graphic is adorable.

David- I have been following the stuff about your parents.Amy Parker is wise. I, personally, would tell people, but I am also firmly of the belief that secrets are sometimes the trauma. As someone who grew up with a lot of secrets, it pains me that there are certain things I will just never know. I don’t know if it is different for the following generation, as things might not have been so weird for them. My my informing trauma was my grandparents’ stuff (which informed my mother’s stuff and her propensity for keeping secrets to protect me, so it is a little personal to me) Dani Shapiro has a really good podcast called Family Secrets where she explores this [link]

askye- I am following along with your recovery from the concussion. I think you are doing so well with advocating for yourself. I do not have a concussion and would totally throw away the paper check instead of the junk mail. I was in a bad spot the other week, because I lost my debit card, ordered a new one, found the old one (which was cancelled) and then lost the new one!

Steph- I was just in Nashville, and though it sounds like your friend brought it from outside- boy did it seem like a breeding ground for Covid. I noticed that their did not seem to be a mask mandate, but most of the service workers were all masked up. And there were a lot of women riding party busses- that must have been the bachelorette parties.

In my news, a beloved former student who was a teacher locally just passed away. Unfortunately my memory is shot in terms of time, but I think she was about 30. The cause is “undetermined” and she was found similarly to ita. There were none of the code words used for suicide- which since I have lost two other students was a relief. But my students should not be gone from the world when they have so much to give.

Oh, that's so sad, Sophia.

I can't even begin to respond to everything else, so I will just say kind thoughts to all -- and Laura, I love "Otter Bliss"!!

Love it when the first thing my work computer does on Monday morning is update the BIOS. Not at all alarming.

Edit: Oh, and the threat of rolling blackouts because it's been over 100 degrees for days and will continue to be for the forseeable future. Awesome.