Good god, Hec!
Giles, if you would like to get by in American society, then you are going to have to follow our traditions. You're the patriarch. You have to host the festivities, or it's all meaningless.
Buffy ,'Sleeper'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
-t - Jul 08, 2022 8:45:33 am PDT #16152 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
sj - Jul 08, 2022 8:45:38 am PDT #16153 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Yes, definitely need to plan something with Nanita. And we’re going to hopefully see flea and family when we’re at the Cape this summer. And hopefully lots of play dates with Stitch and vw.
-t - Jul 08, 2022 8:46:17 am PDT #16154 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
That all sounds good, sj!
DavidS - Jul 08, 2022 8:52:31 am PDT #16155 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Good god, Hec!
Sorry, -t and Dana! It's a lot.
Anyway, so that makes me see my mother's alcoholism during my high school years in a different light.
And I have to reconsider how I viewed my dad's behavior knowing he was receiving hormone treatment (Testosterone supplements) and "diet pills" (Lordy, they were just handing out Meth like it was candy back then) at the same time.
DavidS - Jul 08, 2022 8:55:45 am PDT #16156 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Look at you go, -t! Yoga, gym, bicycling! I am very impressed with your healthy-making plans.
JenP - Jul 08, 2022 8:56:29 am PDT #16157 of 30000
Jesus, Hec. Unbelievably horrific.
-t, I am impressed by your scoping skills.
My weekend plans are to put together the deck umbrella and to see some people at some point for something... which is exactly how far along those plans have gotten.
Maybe drinks and food under the umbrella?
Cass - Jul 08, 2022 9:02:38 am PDT #16158 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
That's a whole lot to live with, Hec.
I am heading to San Diego because my uncle's new wife had a heart attack two weeks ago while scuba diving sixty feet down in Mexico. The Mexico is why there has been a two week delay. It takes a while to get the body released. She did not survive.
I only met her once and it wasn't even at their wedding but my cousin's a month after theirs in May. And now her celebration of life. She liked my shoes and was mad that my uncle's ex-wife was at my cousin's wedding. Like she didn't birth and raise the kid. I like to think that would have been a funny story in a couple decades.
So basically this is Cass gets to see her uncles but the same one who was super emotional (happy) last time will be super emotional (disraught) this time.
DavidS - Jul 08, 2022 9:09:03 am PDT #16159 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
She did not survive.
Oy! I'm sorry, Cass. That's gotta be horrible emotional whiplash for your Uncle.
-t - Jul 08, 2022 9:27:53 am PDT #16160 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Oh, Cass, I'm so sorry. Your poor uncle.
Hec, please to note that I am much better at making the healthy plans than actually carrying them out! Orders of magnitude. But sometimes I do follow through.
Umbrella-warming drinks and nibbles on the patio sounds delightful, JenP!
Calli - Jul 08, 2022 10:47:40 am PDT #16161 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
It's amazing what we learn years after the fact, and how that affects our memories of childhood events. I mean, you know horrific stuff happens in the world, generally. But putting it together into "horrific thing happened to a family member and that impacted my childhood in very specific ways" is a whole different situation.