The charge nurse from my dad's hospital floor called me this morning and told me that he got increasingly agitated and combative overnight and actually punched 2 nurses, so they had to put him in 3-point soft restraints and give him more Ativan. I have NO idea what in the hell is going on, but I hope they can figure it out soon. He should be having an MRI of his head today to see if there's any physical brain disease. I'm going to go over later in the day, maybe after 5, because I assume he's going to have a lot going on today.
Still planning on going on vacation, but feeling increasingly guilty about it.
Oh dear, Tep. I still don't think the guilt is warranted, fwtw.
It's just that every time he's in the hospital, I rush to his side, and that's been a pattern for literally 30 years. So not doing it now -- in fact, not just not rushing to his side but instead going to the beach -- feels incredibly neglectful.
So not doing it now -- in fact, not just not rushing to his side but instead going to the beach -- feels incredibly neglectful.
It's actually the opposite. It's emotionally healthy, and setting proper boundaries. It's not like you left him in a Walmart parking lot. He's receiving professional care. And also I don't want him punching you.
The 30 years you were constantly running to his bedside is a pattern you needed to break.
It is absolutely what you should be doing, though! Not rushing to his side, I mean. You don't need that, he doesn't need that (even if he expects it), it's no good for anyone.
^^ What t and David said.
Seriously, they are right. You can't do anything for him right now -- the right people are there to do what he needs! -- so it is right to do something for yourself.
Teppy, if you left him at home alone with these symptoms that would be neglect. But leaving the hospital you number while you’re away and checking in on the tests results is not neglect.
I just had a meeting with a new subscriber for psych meds because my previous one retired, and he seems to not actually believe in ADHD meds and was kind of an asshat in general. I so did not need that this week.
We had a potluck today for Cinco de Mayo and it was actually really fun to hang out with the coworkers who were in the office today and just eat and chat. We haven't done that for so long. And I ate too much sampling everything and now I want a nap.
