Stop means no. And no means no. So . . . stop.

Xander ,'Conversations with Dead People'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


DavidS - May 05, 2022 8:58:00 am PDT #14931 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

So not doing it now -- in fact, not just not rushing to his side but instead going to the beach -- feels incredibly neglectful.

It's actually the opposite. It's emotionally healthy, and setting proper boundaries. It's not like you left him in a Walmart parking lot. He's receiving professional care. And also I don't want him punching you.

The 30 years you were constantly running to his bedside is a pattern you needed to break.


-t - May 05, 2022 9:00:01 am PDT #14932 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

It is absolutely what you should be doing, though! Not rushing to his side, I mean. You don't need that, he doesn't need that (even if he expects it), it's no good for anyone.


Jessica - May 05, 2022 9:26:44 am PDT #14933 of 30000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

^^ What t and David said.


Jesse - May 05, 2022 9:34:34 am PDT #14934 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Seriously, they are right. You can't do anything for him right now -- the right people are there to do what he needs! -- so it is right to do something for yourself.


sj - May 05, 2022 9:54:40 am PDT #14935 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Teppy, if you left him at home alone with these symptoms that would be neglect. But leaving the hospital you number while you’re away and checking in on the tests results is not neglect.

I just had a meeting with a new subscriber for psych meds because my previous one retired, and he seems to not actually believe in ADHD meds and was kind of an asshat in general. I so did not need that this week.


-t - May 05, 2022 10:24:21 am PDT #14936 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Ugh, sj! I'm so sorry.


-t - May 05, 2022 12:57:09 pm PDT #14937 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

We had a potluck today for Cinco de Mayo and it was actually really fun to hang out with the coworkers who were in the office today and just eat and chat. We haven't done that for so long. And I ate too much sampling everything and now I want a nap.


Cashmere - May 05, 2022 1:06:51 pm PDT #14938 of 30000
Now tagless for your comfort.

I needed this today. Sound is NSFW. [link]


Matt the Bruins fan - May 05, 2022 1:14:28 pm PDT #14939 of 30000
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand

Man, I thought Madison Cawthorn was just being a prudish drama queen and exaggerating about being invited to coke-fueled orgies, but the way things are going with his waterfall of scandals just in time for Primaries maybe Republican Congresspeople really do have them as team-building exercises!


Laura - May 05, 2022 2:38:05 pm PDT #14940 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

It looks like the GOP are just using Cawthorn as a way to prove they have some kind of line? Apparently he isn't well liked so an easy one to use for that purpose. Why oh why didn't they pick Marjorie whatever?

In other newsy news, I am so delighted with the pick of Karine Jean-Pierre for press secretary for purely frivolous reasons. I just think she is gorgeous to look at. Yeah, yeah, smart and capable and all that, but super pretty too!