That’s some good progress askye! You have been bearing up under a lot of stressors, for sure

JZ, I am up in the middle of the night adulting myself and I had an impulse to say a bunch of supportive stuff, but realized that none of it would likely be helpful so...Imagine me gazing at you with the most loving and uplifting heart-eyes possible for a human to manage. Like, galactic puppy eyes.

You are a stellar human and your caring is legendary.

One of the reasons I am up in the middle of the night is that the ozone machine is running, as I type this. 24 hours on and then 4 hours to settle before I can air the place out. Very serious business.

And, a last ditch.

Breaking the lease and moving would cost upwards of 12K. And, that is after the property manager, who has actually been really sweet and supportive through all this, cut me a deal to lower the buyout by about 50%.

It feels like this situation is the Universe aggressively challenging me to change my way of being. Which I'm actually welcoming.

This story of never being safe in my home has run its course. Humbling myself to give up a fighting stance has been easier than I expected. I find myself channeling Bill Murray in Caddyshack...'So, I've got that going for me. Which is nice.'

I'm infinitely grateful that I have the resources to keep Cagney safe and comfortable though all this. I think he'd be content to live in this hotel forever! BTW, if you are ever in Tysons Corner VA and seek a super clean, comfortable mid-range accommodation with really sweet people, I can recommend the Hilton Garden Inn. It's in the middle of an industrial park, but I was able to walk to a local pizzeria, and it's near a lot of shopping.

There are so many more things to be grateful for than to be upset about. Sure, it hasn't felt like that all along, but in the main, I am fine.

Now, all I need is for the treatment to work.

I am DYING over this Cameo my sister bought for our new niece

Adorbs!

but I'm just sort of sickly stewing over all of it. I hate, hate, hate people I love being angry at each other

It is a whole lot of a lot. Telling the people you love how much you hate them being angry at each other and making it about you may be a good way to divert their attention toward solutions. I hope the family visit goes better than anticipated.

That is a lot to process, askye, but I agree that you are getting this a good time in your life to understand and benefit from the information. You certainly have come a long way with handling stressors.

beekaytee, I am sending the clean~air~ma in abundance. Good to know about the Tyson's Corner destination. That is on the route I take twice a year and pet friendly accommodations are always helpful.

The boat we made an offer on didn't pan out. We are out the money for the inspections, but felt we needed to take the expert advice and take a pass. The inspectors and the broker all assure us that a better solution will be forthcoming. I'm okay with it since my current situation is quite lovely staying with our friend, but my pets and possessions are scattered and inaccessible for the most part. Cats are with MIL and happy with her, but hide when DH or I stop by. We theorize that the recent 3x I have shoved them into carriers and moved them has made them leery of being in arms reach of us. They'll get over it after I shove them in carriers again and take them to live with us.

Telling the people you love how much you hate them being angry at each other and making it about you may be a good way to divert their attention toward solutions.

In this case, at least, one of the people is already there and embarrassed that I'm in the middle, and the other person would take anything like that like a Molotov cocktail, so it's up to all the thoughtful diplomacy I don't have.

I hope the family visit goes better than anticipated.

It'll probably go fine; it's just gonna be stressful getting up there! My mom is already fully on board with the "My birthday, my choices" POV and has decided to just be unbothered by her sister. She wants the kind of event she wants (decidedly NOT the multi-city celebration caravan this woman who really should know her better after knowing her for a literal lifetime wanted) and that's that. And I guess maybe it's lucky that I've got such epically blown-up bridges and flaming Molotov cocktails elsewhere that I won't have the brainspace to flail pointlessly at peacemaking between them; I'll be too busy to do anything but let their relationship and my aunt's hurt feelings slide and work themselves out or not.

beekaytee, fingers crossed that the professional ozone treatment does its job. I'm so glad you and Cagney have a safe space to wait it out, and I'm vibing for a whole lot of zero-stress time ahead because you've more than earned it.

~ma and hugs to everyone that needs them. I’ve been reading along, but I’m low on spoons for responding right now. I’m spending every spare minute I have right now at my grandfather’s apartment with him, Mom, and Stepdad. Which is both wonderful and exhausting. ltc is on vacation this week but has spent the last couple of days with my in-laws. So, I’ve had extra time to be here.

It's good that you have been able to arrange to have more time with your grandfather, sj. I hope ltc is enjoying the spoiling at your in-laws.

So glad you're getting that time with him that you need.

Thanks. It’s definitely a blessing to spend this time with him. His body is failing, but his mind is sharp. So we’re going through pictures and talking about recipes, etc.

beekaytee, fingers crossed that the professional ozone treatment does its job. I'm so glad you and Cagney have a safe space to wait it out, and I'm vibing for a whole lot of zero-stress time ahead because you've more than earned it.

Bless. I'm ready for that! I'll post pictures once it's all done. I'm just voting for a positive outcome and will do whatever that takes. Even if it means running the machine again. The expert said 24-48, so I won't fret if more is required.

beekaytee, I am sending the clean~air~ma in abundance. Good to know about the Tyson's Corner destination. That is on the route I take twice a year and pet friendly accommodations are always helpful.

Thanks, Laura. All good vibes gratefully accepted. And, I genuinely endorse this place. Tell them Cagney sent you. The staff here now will remember!