Ugh. My friend has a harmless, but annoying (to me) habit. If she texts me and I don't reply, she sends a text that says, literally "*poke*". I don't know why I find this irritating. Just say "hey, what's up" or even just a question mark.
She is lovely, but sensitive to criticism, in a way that she really internalizes it. If I said "I find this habit annoying" she would hear "Steph thinks I'm annoying" and I don't. I really like her. This just tweaks me.
I know it's kind of irrational, and not a big deal, but how do I get her to stop other than passively aggressively ignoring the "poke" but following up to other messages.
I don't like being poked. I don't even like it when somebody sends me two texts in a row without my reply. WAIT FOR MY REPLY! MY TIME IS MY OWN AND IF I'M DOING MY SHIT I'M NOT ON YOUR CLOCK!
Hey, any of you out there who bought a house ever got to the place where it's frantic and you have to fill out a lot of forms and underwriters are balking at the mortgage over some technical detail and your realtor says you have to make a bid in the morning but....
You know. Like that.
That's where we are. Buying a home is stressful.
Obviously you have to be pretty fortunate to receive that bucket of stress, but it's still stressy.
how do I get her to stop
Up until about a year ago I was still on a plan that charged for each text message, so family knew not to text me casually. I still haven’t told most of them that I’ve upgraded my plan.
Perhaps you could send a reply of “Pondering….” Do you think she would eventually catch on?
There is probably a gif out there of Jack Benny saying “I’m thinking, I’m thinking!” that you could use.
That's where we are. Buying a home is stressful.
I have purchased property 4 times (once the business building), and Every Single Time it is super stressful. Nothing ever happens on the expected timeline. There is always another avadavat for some bullshit. OMG, I was late with a utility payment 14 years ago now need to write a letter explaining the reasons. It is torture. Upside, it does come together and is so awesome when it is finished. (ps, in case it wasn't already obvious banks and insurance companies are inherently evil)
There is probably a gif out there of Jack Benny saying “I’m thinking, I’m thinking!” that you could use.
Or one of those buried under paperwork graphics.
I have purchased property 4 times (once the business building), and Every Single Time it is super stressful. Nothing ever happens on the expected timeline.
I've watched people go through the process and this seems true. I'm just going through it now and it's unpleasant.
The weird part is that the Trust we set up to deal with some Capital Gains issues is super common in estate planning, but apparently wildly exotic to lenders.
I have purchased property 4 times (once the business building), and Every Single Time it is super stressful. Nothing ever happens on the expected timeline.
Ditto. We've had four houses, and there's always some kind of hiccup which turns into Big Drama.
and there's always some kind of hiccup which turns into Big Drama.
Mmmhmmm mmmhmmm. That's the thing.
Hey, any of you out there who bought a house ever got to the place where it's frantic and you have to fill out a lot of forms and underwriters are balking at the mortgage over some technical detail and your realtor says you have to make a bid in the morning but....
Twice! Nope, three times! If you include the one we backed out of at the last minute. Purchasing property suuuuuuuuuuucks!
But in the end you do get a house to live in, so you know.
OTOH, scratchy-bitey kitten sounds adorable, if kind of exhausting.
Significantly less adorable this morning now that it looks like I've been running the backs of my hands over a cheese grater. I need to buy him some kind of toy he can take his excess energy out on, stat.
