My cousin Jay died this morning. If yall could send ~ma and vibes out to his family.

I don't know all the details of what happened with his decline. Every time mom and I tried to talk she didn't have privacy or was just worn out from talking about it. I think a will to love played a role in his decline. When he was in a coma everyone said he wouldn't want to be in the situation he was.

I hadnt seen Jay in decades and frankly when we were kids he often bullied (or tried to bully) me and I thought he always trying too hard to be...tough. But he was always kind and loving towards Mom.

Mostly I'm sad for his son and my aunt and his former step daughters and all the people who loved him and liked him.

Out of 8 first cousins Jay is the 3rd to die, all under the age of 50.

I’m so sorry, askye.

That's just awful, askye. I'm so sorry.

Thank you Tom.

Thanks Jen.

It's just a horrible situation that had no real happy ending.

One of the horrible things is his employer offered health insurance but it was so expensive Jay had opted out of it. I don't know if he could have done anything to prevent the stroke or made the after care better but I'm once again left with questioning if unaffordable health care played a role in a cousin's death.

Oh, that's all so awful, askye. I'm sorry.

I'm so sorry, askye. Keeping your family in my thoughts.

I’m so sorry, askye. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

So sorry, askye.

I'm so sorry, askye.