Fred, that is so much upset and turmoil for a year. It really does sound like you are getting things under control and taking much better care of your physical and emotional health. I agree that continuing working really does add a great deal of stability to life. May 2019 be free from excess drama.
No. And yes. It's always sudden.
Tara ,'Storyteller'
Goodbye and Good Riddance 2018: The Real Bad Place Was The Friends We Made Along The Way
Every year we watch the Charlie Brown special, do the Snoopy dance, wish everybody a Merry Thanksgivukkahmas, and thank our Secret Santas in the good riddance thread. Which is this one, in case you were wondering.
Go away, 2018. You have a lot to turn around, 2019. Be a Good Place.
Laura - Dec 10, 2018 6:19:21 am PST #24 of 131
Our wings are not tired.
amyth - Dec 10, 2018 6:34:08 am PST #25 of 131
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
askye, you've made amazing progress. I'm so glad.
Wow, Fred. I hope 2019 is a good year for you. It sounds like you are doing some important work towards taking care of yourself, but none of that is easy. Wishing you all the best.
amych - Dec 10, 2018 7:41:41 am PST #26 of 131
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
Oh, Fred, I had no idea so much was going on with you! It sounds like you've found a way to build some stability and that's much needed right now -- wishing you continued improvements in all things (and pls give my scritches to the cats)
Beverly - Dec 10, 2018 9:23:59 am PST #27 of 131
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Fred, that's a lot. I'm grateful you've found your way through to where you are, and that you're making choices mindfully, and continue to work toward health, both mental and physical. All best thoughts that things work out well for you--and the cats.
askye, I am awed and impressed by all you've achieved. You've always been beloved among Buffistas I've known (and actually met!). I'm glad you're finding that self-knowledge and self-love now, too.
Fred Pete - Dec 10, 2018 12:39:14 pm PST #28 of 131
Ann, that's a ferret.
Thanks for the thoughts. When things calm down a bit, I'm going to take a vacation. I'm thinking Vermont in May or June -- it's the only state east of the Mississippi River that I've never been in.
NoiseDesign - Dec 10, 2018 12:54:58 pm PST #29 of 131
Our wings are not tired
Oh Fred! I just want to give you a hug. That's so much.
sj - Dec 10, 2018 1:44:49 pm PST #30 of 131
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Fred, I had no idea you were dealing with so much. Hugs and ~ma for you.
Maria - Dec 10, 2018 2:50:16 pm PST #31 of 131
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
ask, I'm so proud of your progress. I'm glad things are moving in a direction that makes you happy.
Fred, so much love and strength to you. I hope that 2019 brings you even more clarity, and a measure of contentment.
edited because of stupid autocorrect
aurelia - Dec 10, 2018 5:37:29 pm PST #32 of 131
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
askye and Fred, I can only echo the wise words above. It hasn't been an easy path but you've both made your way on your own terms.
Consuela - Dec 10, 2018 8:09:31 pm PST #33 of 131
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Fred, that's a lot. I'm glad you're looking after yourself.
This year started for me on safari in Tanzania, followed by climbing one of the 7 summits with much of my family. It's been a year of establishing new routines in light of my father and BIL's deaths. I haven't been as good a friend as I would like to be, and I have not built much in the way of new relationships: most of my emotional energy has been dedicated to family, and to supporting my sister.
I would like for that to change.
But it hasn't been a bad year; my health is good, the dog's health is good after a cancer scare last spring, the rest of the family is doing well. I think I need to identify some long-term goals, and that's something to work on.