Thanks, WindSparrow.
Wow Allyson, that's a lot to deal with. I hope it works out.
Look, Angel, I know you've been out of the loop for a while, but I'm still evil. I don't do errands...unless they're evil errands.
Lilah ,'Just Rewards (2)'
Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Gudanov - May 06, 2019 5:33:08 am PDT #7506 of 30019
Coding and Sleeping
Kate P. - May 06, 2019 6:00:12 am PDT #7507 of 30019
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
Allyson, what an awful situation. I am fiercely hoping that you are able to adopt your niece, and so glad to hear that she is happy and safe with your parents right now.
I've been preparing to adopt her. I love her so much. It's scary, and I have five million doubts a day. I'm worried about so many things, and also excited to be a parent and make her breakfast and walk her to school and and make messes in the garden.
Just to echo sj, this sounds totally right for anyone contemplating becoming a parent. It is scary, and we all have countless doubts and worries, and also the love you have for her, and the enjoyment you have, and will have, in her presence will carry you through, along with the books and therapy and support from all the many loving members of your community, us included. I so hope that you get to be the one to raise her.
meara - May 06, 2019 6:25:49 am PDT #7508 of 30019
Good luck, Allyson!!
Ugh. I just got confirmation that the girl I went on a second date with DID have a good time....but didn't feel any chemistry. I am so over all of this. I fucking hate all of it. Dating, being single when every fucking person I am friends with is part of a couple, never finding anyone who's into me. Also I hate my job and want to quit. But love that sweet sweet paycheck. It's monday and I'm already over this week.
Gudanov - May 06, 2019 7:51:10 am PDT #7509 of 30019
Coding and Sleeping
Sorry, meara. That sounds frustrating.
Jesse - May 06, 2019 8:22:04 am PDT #7510 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
This is why I keep quitting dating, meara. Luckily, I do have single friends!
Allyson, I believe that you and your family are doing the right thing for that little girl and will be OK.
Katerina Bee - May 06, 2019 9:23:29 am PDT #7511 of 30019
Herding cats for fun
I say that what Allyson is doing for her niece is the sort of thing that saves the world. I give you a trillion points for caring so much.
Consuela - May 06, 2019 9:28:28 am PDT #7512 of 30019
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Oh, man, Allyson, that sounds heartbreaking for everyone. Thank god your parents are able and willing to help, and that you are so committed to your niece. She needs you in her corner.
If you are able to take custody, I know you will be able to handle it. Even if it's hard and scary, we know you can do it.
Best of luck to all your family, even your brother and his GF.
Calli - May 06, 2019 10:09:26 am PDT #7513 of 30019
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
That sounds terribly stressful, Allyson. I hope you'll get custody of your niece. And I'm glad your parents have her for now.
Fred Pete - May 06, 2019 11:44:18 am PDT #7514 of 30019
Ann, that's a ferret.
Allyson, what everyone else said. And completely tangentially, brava for distilling what is no doubt a very lengthy shitshow into a few calm and succinct paragraphs.
juliana - May 06, 2019 12:31:18 pm PDT #7515 of 30019
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Allyson, so much love and strength to you & your family.