This is why I keep quitting dating, meara. Luckily, I do have single friends!
Allyson, I believe that you and your family are doing the right thing for that little girl and will be OK.
I wanna hurt you, but I can't resist the sinister attraction of your cold and muscular body!
Buffybot ,'Dirty Girls'
Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jesse - May 06, 2019 8:22:04 am PDT #7510 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Katerina Bee - May 06, 2019 9:23:29 am PDT #7511 of 30019
Herding cats for fun
I say that what Allyson is doing for her niece is the sort of thing that saves the world. I give you a trillion points for caring so much.
Consuela - May 06, 2019 9:28:28 am PDT #7512 of 30019
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Oh, man, Allyson, that sounds heartbreaking for everyone. Thank god your parents are able and willing to help, and that you are so committed to your niece. She needs you in her corner.
If you are able to take custody, I know you will be able to handle it. Even if it's hard and scary, we know you can do it.
Best of luck to all your family, even your brother and his GF.
Calli - May 06, 2019 10:09:26 am PDT #7513 of 30019
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
That sounds terribly stressful, Allyson. I hope you'll get custody of your niece. And I'm glad your parents have her for now.
Fred Pete - May 06, 2019 11:44:18 am PDT #7514 of 30019
Ann, that's a ferret.
Allyson, what everyone else said. And completely tangentially, brava for distilling what is no doubt a very lengthy shitshow into a few calm and succinct paragraphs.
juliana - May 06, 2019 12:31:18 pm PDT #7515 of 30019
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Allyson, so much love and strength to you & your family.
Allyson - May 06, 2019 1:07:53 pm PDT #7516 of 30019
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
Thank you so much. It's been so heavy on my heart. Kristen is really supportive which is enormous. Huge life change. And it's all so precarious. My older niece (11) picks out her ensembles for school and styles her hair and brushes her teeth in the morning. My nephew was s an early riser so he usually gets her out of the crib and plays with her in the morning while my mom makes breakfast and packs her lunch. Everyone has been helping. My sister-in-law is a saint for helping to care for her, too.
hippocampus - May 06, 2019 1:15:16 pm PDT #7517 of 30019
not your mom's socks.
So much love to you, Allyson -- you are a wonderful human
meara - May 06, 2019 3:11:28 pm PDT #7518 of 30019
Y'all, I put a meeting on my boss' calendar for tomorrow morning, to quit my job. I feel like this may be a terrible plan, but I just can't anymore. I need some time to de-stress and figure out what I need and want to do with myself and the job is the easiest part to remove (harder to fix, but also I just don't have the energy to search for a job while doing this one!). I think I will plan to take the summer off (potentially applying for a job or two if anything looks really good) and then decide if I want to just apply for essentially the same job I have now, or do anything super crazy.
Calli - May 06, 2019 3:15:40 pm PDT #7519 of 30019
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I hope the time away from work proves useful, meara .