I feel like she needs a reminder that 'love, honor, and cherish' is a vow that the both of you took.

This needed repeating.

Maybe I shouldn't be talking about this at all. I don't want to bring the board down with my own problems and failings.

Gud, you are part of our Buffista family. We want you to talk about this so we can give you support and help. Please don't worry about "bringing the board down". We're here for you.

My DH told me that he realized he had to get out of his first marriage when he was working three jobs (he was working 70 hours a week) to pay for his wife's grad school, so she would not have to work and could concentrate on her classes. She told him that he had no time for her, was boring and was a terrible,partner. He said he suddenly realized that no matter what he did, it would never NEVER be enough to please her. Once he looked at it that way, he stopped the endless cycle of trying to please her and failing and beating himself up over it.

Meanwhile, my wife has decided she will no longer be part of the family and stayed at her office all day.

Good riddance! Bye, Psycho! Go torture somebody else.

looking for the LIKE button on Scrappy's post.

Gud - Have you ever called a therapist help line or gone to see a counselor this whole time?

Gud, the Buffistas have been wise here, so I will just nod.

Entirely different note: Blair Braverman is running the Iditarod with some dogs from a "Buffy the Vampire Slayer Litter." [link] That makes it easy to know who to root for...

OK, I'm a fan, now.

Shit, I have no idea when I took my last dose of Sudafed. Except that it wasn't, like, an hour ago.

Gud, please call a helpline or go see a counselor. If not for yourself, then for your kids. This has to be hell for them too.

Gud, I really hope you can get some help. Your wife is being abusive.

All the local schools are closed for tomorrow, but I got an email that we're open. Boooo. So I hope it's not actually 10 inches.