Mal: There's plenty orders of mine that she didn't obey. Wash: Name one! Mal: She married you!

'War Stories'


Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Jesse - Jan 27, 2019 2:48:21 pm PST #4471 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

That all sounds promising, brenda. I hope it all works well and your body gets its act together!


erikaj - Jan 27, 2019 3:51:02 pm PST #4472 of 30019
Always Anti-fascist!

Sometimes when I am worried about someone, it *can* read as if I am pissed with them, just because they are often not privy to all I've imagined. But it does seem like there are a lot of eggshells to walk on chez Gud.


P.M. Marc - Jan 27, 2019 5:12:42 pm PST #4473 of 30019
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

shrift and I have personally made eye contact with Karl Urban and giggled quietly behind his back, so I think we're pretty sure they're different people.

Yeah, but aren't you supposedly different people, too? I'm not sure I buy it.


Theodosia - Jan 28, 2019 2:15:52 am PST #4474 of 30019
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

Gud, I wonder if it would be a useful exercise to ask your wife when she seems angry, how angry she is on a 1-10 scale. Then write it down with the reason, and put down how serious your 'infraction' was and ask us how serious an infraction it was. I think she overreacts out of anxiety about things out of her (and your) control.

I mean, I can see being irked by a loved one who wasn't taking proper precautions when, say, taking something down from a really high shelf on tip-toe, and a box falls off and breaks something. But that's 'irked' which is probably a 3 on a 10 scale, and I'm more irked by the thought that they were overconfident in this situation and might make a more serious mistake if they keep this sort of thing up, like breaking an arm or a head.

If all your wife's anger is at a 10-of-10 scale, then something is way off on her side. Asking her what the number is actually may make her consider how she is reacting, and evaluate if she's processing her emotions and reactions appropriately.


Jesse - Jan 28, 2019 4:14:59 am PST #4475 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I stayed up past my bedtime to watch Rent last night (as a theater-loving friend said on Facebook, that was our Super Bowl!), and now I'm tired. At least I didn't have to go to the 9am meeting (sorry, Dana).


Fred Pete - Jan 28, 2019 4:25:59 am PST #4476 of 30019
Ann, that's a ferret.

Gud, I'm no doctor, but it sounds like you might also have depression. Have you talked to a doctor about that possibility7 They may be able to offer options, including medication. (One word of caution if you do go that route -- there are a lot of medications out there, and it may take a few false starts before you find one that works. I firmly believe that prescribing medication in that area is more of an art than a science.)

I'll second Theo's suggestion that you talk to your wife, but I'll add another reason. It's possible that she may not realize the effect that her words and actions have on you. If that's the situation, then just bringing it to her attention may help.


Jesse - Jan 28, 2019 6:09:47 am PST #4477 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

People at work are annoying, and not just because I didn't sleep enough! This stuff was annoying last week, too! Boooo.


Jessica - Jan 28, 2019 7:06:48 am PST #4478 of 30019
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

How to feel old at work:

Step 1: Listen to your co-workers say "Maybe the reason I never got into Buffy is because I didn't watch it as a kid."

Step 2: Realize they don't mean "because I was a busy high school/college student and just never got into it" but "because I wasn't old enough to watch that kind of TV when it was first on the air"


-t - Jan 28, 2019 7:09:30 am PST #4479 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Oh, as usual, dear, Jessica.

Work is wanting me to do too much work today. I would prefer not to.


Jesse - Jan 28, 2019 7:35:02 am PST #4480 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Yikes.