Sending healing~ma your way, Brenda.

Sympathies, Sheryl. It is so exhausting. It's a shame they don't get that we all have more fun when they behave.

I'm certainly glad you were able to get All the Tests, brenda! That is a scary cluster of symptoms. I hope you're able to get them minimized.

They don't know why on the clotting, but the anemia may actually be uterine. Thank dog they now have an oral medication for the clotting. Those shots were terrible.

Thank you for checking in, Brenda. I bet those shots were horrible.

Gud, do me a favor: you spend a lot of time giving your wife the benefit of the doubt. Can you give yourself the benefit of the doubt?

Because this needs to be repeated. Many times.

GUD YOU ARE AN AWESOME PERSON AND YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS

THIS ALSO NEEDS TO BE REPEATED MANY TIMES!

Gud, as a thought exercise, do you accept that sometimes, people getting angry is not justified, and even when it is, they are sometimes angry at a person or thing that is not the cause of their anger.

When you can, can you consider that your wife's anger is not always justified? Which does not mean that you don't have to deal with it, but that you should not internalize it.

In other words, just because your wife is angry, doesn't mean that you made a mistake. For example, if your wife is angry that you have not made dinner, but the reason that you haven't made dinner is that you are physically unable to do so, you have not done anything wrong. You may need to ride out the anger, but you should not allow yourself to feel badly because of it.

That all sounds promising, brenda. I hope it all works well and your body gets its act together!

Sometimes when I am worried about someone, it *can* read as if I am pissed with them, just because they are often not privy to all I've imagined. But it does seem like there are a lot of eggshells to walk on chez Gud.

shrift and I have personally made eye contact with Karl Urban and giggled quietly behind his back, so I think we're pretty sure they're different people.

Yeah, but aren't you supposedly different people, too? I'm not sure I buy it.

Gud, I wonder if it would be a useful exercise to ask your wife when she seems angry, how angry she is on a 1-10 scale. Then write it down with the reason, and put down how serious your 'infraction' was and ask us how serious an infraction it was. I think she overreacts out of anxiety about things out of her (and your) control.

I mean, I can see being irked by a loved one who wasn't taking proper precautions when, say, taking something down from a really high shelf on tip-toe, and a box falls off and breaks something. But that's 'irked' which is probably a 3 on a 10 scale, and I'm more irked by the thought that they were overconfident in this situation and might make a more serious mistake if they keep this sort of thing up, like breaking an arm or a head.

If all your wife's anger is at a 10-of-10 scale, then something is way off on her side. Asking her what the number is actually may make her consider how she is reacting, and evaluate if she's processing her emotions and reactions appropriately.

I stayed up past my bedtime to watch Rent last night (as a theater-loving friend said on Facebook, that was our Super Bowl!), and now I'm tired. At least I didn't have to go to the 9am meeting (sorry, Dana).