You have to get out of this situation before your wife's abuse kills you.

askye is right. This is killing you--if not physically, it is doing profound harm to you, and we don't want to see you hurt.

What if she's right and I am just a jerk

The behavior you are describing from her is objectively awful. Someone is being the jerk here, but *it is not you.*

Timelies all!

What everyone said, Gud.

Meanwhile today was a shitshow with Mr. S. He ended up in timeout several times today, and when Gary went to get him out of his room he found Mr. S had taken a bunch of stuff of Gary's(and broke some of it). Later on we found that Mr. S had opened a package of Nova's medicated treats, took all of them out of the blister packs and gave them to Nova.(There are 30 in a package, and she is supposed to get one a day) He claims she ate them all, so I ended up on the phone with animal poison control during dinner.

Luckily, she seems to be fine, and the person at the poison control center said she should be ok, but to watch her for the next few days.

Oy.

The behavior you are describing from her is objectively awful.

This.

Get medical care. And once you are healthy physically, please consider your mental health as well. She is actively harmful from everything you say. And I believe you. I believe that she really is an awful person. That's hard to say and I'm sure it's not fun to read but she is so very abusive and that is not okay.

Gud, I take it from you saying you don't have either Covid or flu that you've seen a doctor? If not, please do.

106 is out of control, but even 104 is high for an adult. Does your doctor know you still have a fever? They might want to repeat a test.

I'm sorry the situation at home is so rough.

Fuck your wife, Gud. Seriously.

This. 106 will make you delirious.

She is shitty fucking human being.

Oh Gud, I wish you could see just how much you are *not* a jerk. You cannot even rest when you're sick, which is the only thing expected to do when one is sick. This is not being a jerk. This is taking care of yourself, so that you can heal. You deserve rest. You deserve feeling better and being healthy. You deserve not being shout at when you are sick. You deserve people who are taking care of you, sick or not. This is how life should work, not by you taking care of 150% of other people's wants and needs.

Please see a doctor. Please take care of yourself and rest. And please stop listening to your wife. You are loved and appreciated and deserve much better than this.

Gud: extreme fever. Wife: WHAT ABOUT MEEEE?

I'll tell you what will happen without you: she won't be able to pay bills, do laundry, get groceries, deal with her website or clean the carpet. Why would you wish this harridan on another man? What did he ever do to deserve this extremely bad behavior?

The only reason I would yell at my husband with a 104 fever would be if he was refusing to go to the doctor or ER. Yes, I would be freaked out. I would also be taking care of him and doing everything I could to help him feel better.

Your wife is abusive, Gud. You are not a jerk. Never in over 30 years of marriage has my husband made me feel like I was a jerk. He is my biggest advocate. Yes, we disagree, and even fight. But never has he treated me as anything less than a treasured partner. It is wrong and you deserve much better.

Also, why and I watching news? A much better plan would be to avoid all media for a couple months.