Yay, successfully re-homed Toddson!

Yay, gainfully employed msbelle!

And thanks, DC, for making rents in San Diego suddenly seem reasonable, I guess?

Oh, yay, Toddson! Can we get pix of decorating the new place?

WHOOP! msbelle! I'm happy as all heck for you! (Also pix as you shake the new place into shape?)

Timelies all!

Yay Toddson! Yay msbelle!

Yay Toddson! Yay msbelle!

I am sorry I was so very unavailable. Work got really bad again for about 4weeks and I was in complete survival mode. I think I may have fucked up my class as well, and then I had four days of being mentally and physically sick and unable to leave bed.

But, my newest replacement started this week, and I think it is going to work out. I already am more confident in her after two days of training than I was with any of the two others, even after close to a year! She needs good guidance, but it organized, asks good questions, and is very organized and efficient. I was able to give her so many little things that were hanging over my head as undone and behind and it has lessened so much stress. It probably doesn't hurt that she has been working for the School of Nursing and knows those procedures already or at least where to go for help. My boss and I actually chose her specifically and recruited her out of a job that was going to be changing rapidly and require a lot more independence, I am keeping part of the job that requires a bunch of independence so we can assess if that needs a whole separate person at a slightly higher level or needs to be moved to admissions and could be handled by their current staff. I also have a new director in both jobs , but she is the same person for both and we work well together. But still all of this caused me so much stress, because I was back doing three jobs and trying to clean up a horrible mess that was left behind because the previous person totally didn't understand shared drives. It took me from November u til February to figure out she left a bunch of stuff in paper files. This was after I had to contact students,registrants and clinical sites to tell them we had no documentation and could they please resend everything they had sent to this person. I am still finding missing important legal documents/contacts and having to contact the other party to ask for a signed copy for our records.

Anyway, I was pretty down and was stressed and could not function, and broke for a few days again. I am done with the EAP, so I might need to find a new therapist, or maybe even a mentor at work? I think I just really miss my one on ones with my old boss where we would prioritize everything and she would give me advice. My EAP sessions had sort of devolved to talking about Good Omens, but then it got bad again. But I think I am on the mend.

I also need to find some sort of coping mechanism for stress that does not involve taking to my bed like a Victorian. But I don't know what that is.

Good news, Toddson and msbelle!

Sophia, I would suggest finding a regular therapist. They would or should be able to work on some strategies with you for dealing with stress rather than full retreat.

I have held off on spending all my money. I know y'all were worried. I even talked myself out of going out for dinner (I have food in the house, food that was going bad).

I did order the tv wall mount that I had found and want, so that was something. I should probably go buy some clothes this weekend since it's been over 5 years since I needed office work clothes. I literally have 1 pair of non jean/non legging pants, I think.

I am picking up takeout that I can not really afford but I have had a DAY y'all. Such work, so many hours.

More importantly: Toddson I am SO RELIEVED you found an affordable place , I hope it will be comfortable and pleasant for you. And YAY JOB MSBELLE!!!!

Woo-hooo on county jobs and available apartments!

I did that out loud so now DH asked and now he's happy about you guys too.

Thanks msbelle. I am thinking of calling the people at EAP to see if my therapist there can provide a recommendation. I really clicked with her, but she doesn't do long term, just the five visits, and we thought I was fine, but now it is a pattern. I think I dealt with stress by just avoiding it, but now I am doing all sorts of stressful things, like trying school and a more important and harder job and I never developed a way to cope. And frankly I just really miss my old boss because we were almost symbiotic, the way we clicked and worked together. I was 100 percent confident that we were on the same wavelength and if we weren't we would talk it through and come to an agreement. I know she misses me too, and we talk about mourning our old jobs (she has taken a new one too) , but we were really happy in our two person bubble where I dealt with students and faculty and she dealt with administration and we just knew what the other person would think. She has also been ill, and now has memory problems and a lot of physical pain and I keep having nervous breakdowns, so we are just a sad pair.