Good news, Toddson and msbelle!

Sophia, I would suggest finding a regular therapist. They would or should be able to work on some strategies with you for dealing with stress rather than full retreat.

I have held off on spending all my money. I know y'all were worried. I even talked myself out of going out for dinner (I have food in the house, food that was going bad).

I did order the tv wall mount that I had found and want, so that was something. I should probably go buy some clothes this weekend since it's been over 5 years since I needed office work clothes. I literally have 1 pair of non jean/non legging pants, I think.

I am picking up takeout that I can not really afford but I have had a DAY y'all. Such work, so many hours.

More importantly: Toddson I am SO RELIEVED you found an affordable place , I hope it will be comfortable and pleasant for you. And YAY JOB MSBELLE!!!!

Woo-hooo on county jobs and available apartments!

I did that out loud so now DH asked and now he's happy about you guys too.

Thanks msbelle. I am thinking of calling the people at EAP to see if my therapist there can provide a recommendation. I really clicked with her, but she doesn't do long term, just the five visits, and we thought I was fine, but now it is a pattern. I think I dealt with stress by just avoiding it, but now I am doing all sorts of stressful things, like trying school and a more important and harder job and I never developed a way to cope. And frankly I just really miss my old boss because we were almost symbiotic, the way we clicked and worked together. I was 100 percent confident that we were on the same wavelength and if we weren't we would talk it through and come to an agreement. I know she misses me too, and we talk about mourning our old jobs (she has taken a new one too) , but we were really happy in our two person bubble where I dealt with students and faculty and she dealt with administration and we just knew what the other person would think. She has also been ill, and now has memory problems and a lot of physical pain and I keep having nervous breakdowns, so we are just a sad pair.

yay msbelle on the job!

For work clothes, I can recommend Thredup, with the following constraints: only buy specific items you know how they fit. So like I get J Crew Perfect Fit t-shirts, and a particular set of leggings I already have. Also they really only have the big brands, but the service is pretty good and the packaging minimal.

Sophia finding a therapist sounds like a good idea and you can find new coping strategies that will work for you.

Timelies all!

We took Mr. S to have a play date with the daughter of some friends today.(Different friends that the ones we had a play date with last month.) Went pretty well.

Today I bought new work clothes. Sara was very nice and accompanied me even though she hates shopping. 1 store for clothes and 1 store for shoes. 12 things purchased. I still need a couple of basic skirts, but I feel good for a few weeks at least.