YAY APARTMENT! YAY JOB!

YAY CIVIL SERVICE!

Ending the week on a positive note ... at least for two of us.

I'm so impressed at you up and moving your life cross country twice while we've known you!

Seriously, this!

Yay, successfully re-homed Toddson!

Yay, gainfully employed msbelle!

And thanks, DC, for making rents in San Diego suddenly seem reasonable, I guess?

Oh, yay, Toddson! Can we get pix of decorating the new place?

WHOOP! msbelle! I'm happy as all heck for you! (Also pix as you shake the new place into shape?)

Timelies all!

Yay Toddson! Yay msbelle!

Yay Toddson! Yay msbelle!

I am sorry I was so very unavailable. Work got really bad again for about 4weeks and I was in complete survival mode. I think I may have fucked up my class as well, and then I had four days of being mentally and physically sick and unable to leave bed.

But, my newest replacement started this week, and I think it is going to work out. I already am more confident in her after two days of training than I was with any of the two others, even after close to a year! She needs good guidance, but it organized, asks good questions, and is very organized and efficient. I was able to give her so many little things that were hanging over my head as undone and behind and it has lessened so much stress. It probably doesn't hurt that she has been working for the School of Nursing and knows those procedures already or at least where to go for help. My boss and I actually chose her specifically and recruited her out of a job that was going to be changing rapidly and require a lot more independence, I am keeping part of the job that requires a bunch of independence so we can assess if that needs a whole separate person at a slightly higher level or needs to be moved to admissions and could be handled by their current staff. I also have a new director in both jobs , but she is the same person for both and we work well together. But still all of this caused me so much stress, because I was back doing three jobs and trying to clean up a horrible mess that was left behind because the previous person totally didn't understand shared drives. It took me from November u til February to figure out she left a bunch of stuff in paper files. This was after I had to contact students,registrants and clinical sites to tell them we had no documentation and could they please resend everything they had sent to this person. I am still finding missing important legal documents/contacts and having to contact the other party to ask for a signed copy for our records.

Anyway, I was pretty down and was stressed and could not function, and broke for a few days again. I am done with the EAP, so I might need to find a new therapist, or maybe even a mentor at work? I think I just really miss my one on ones with my old boss where we would prioritize everything and she would give me advice. My EAP sessions had sort of devolved to talking about Good Omens, but then it got bad again. But I think I am on the mend.

I also need to find some sort of coping mechanism for stress that does not involve taking to my bed like a Victorian. But I don't know what that is.

Good news, Toddson and msbelle!

Sophia, I would suggest finding a regular therapist. They would or should be able to work on some strategies with you for dealing with stress rather than full retreat.