That's a major loss, Zen! Feel good about that and your good work with the A1C!

So far this weekend, I've gone to the grocery store, fed the dogs at all feeding times, put away groceries of course, done a load of dishes, taken out the trash, made a run to the recycling center, taken my daughter to get glasses, gone to the pharmacy, done a load of laundry, put away three loads of laundry, paid some bills, and am currently cleaning the basement. I still need to get rid of more recyclables, do more dishes, do more laundry, and, as always, take care of dinner. Despite feeling busy, I'm just not getting enough done though. My wife chewed me out about sleeping in til 9:00am yesterday and and commented how now little I do around the house. I think I'm just really bad at getting stuff done. We also have a deadline coming up at work and it feels like it's going to be largely up to me to put the project on my back and get it to the finish line. At Motorola and Lowe's I felt like there were better, more accomplished, software engineers working with me. Where I am now, it's not like the people I work with aren't smart or good at what they do, but I feel like I've played in a bigger league for awhile.

It's all kinda making me stressed out and tired. My wife is also getting on me about wanting to exercise more (she wants me to do it with her because she feels she really needs to). I know I should do that and eat less carbs too (see sort of on-topic), but that sort of conflicts with wanting to do personal projects (gotta keep my tech skills sharp) and not really giving a shit about staying alive.

Sorry for the venting, back to the basement.

What stuff around the house have other members of your household done this weekend, Gud?

Yes, Gud -- listing it out for comparison purposes should put it in perspective. By my lights that's quite a lot done, but maybe your family has higher standards than mine.

Kids haven't been home much. My wife cleaned the bathroom and started a load of laundry, though I finished it (I guess a did a load and a half of laundry then). However, she also saw a client and has been working on her business. It's still losing money and the next month is looking grim so she's trying to figure out some marketing.

It feels like laying out the expectations would be helpful, so your wife doesn't just feel like you aren't doing "enough." Like, an actual list of what needs doing around the house and who's going to do it, with reasonable limits and sense of how long things take, alongside the other stuff you all need/want to do over a weekend.

What Jesse Said. Because I think your wife loses track easily of what you've done. If there's a task board or list that you can both (and hey -- those kids, too) check things on, it will both give you a sense of accomplishment and reassure the both of you that Things Are Getting Done.

I suspect your wife's frustration over the business is slopping over into general frustration that isn't appropriate.

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Timelies all!

On the upside, Mr. S didn't start making noise until almost 8 this morning.(This after not settling down to sleep until 9 last night) The rest of the day has not gone so well, with him running away from us in the parking lot of the shopping center where we had lunch(and were going to get groceries) and nearly got hit by a car. I ended up going back for groceries later.