Angel: Will you just shut up for once?! Illyria: What? Angel: My God, the speechifying. Has it ever occurred to you that now might not be the best time for when-we-were-muck stories?

'Time Bomb'


Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Gudanov - Feb 02, 2020 7:50:26 am PST #16003 of 30019
Coding and Sleeping

Kids haven't been home much. My wife cleaned the bathroom and started a load of laundry, though I finished it (I guess a did a load and a half of laundry then). However, she also saw a client and has been working on her business. It's still losing money and the next month is looking grim so she's trying to figure out some marketing.


Jesse - Feb 02, 2020 8:25:39 am PST #16004 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

It feels like laying out the expectations would be helpful, so your wife doesn't just feel like you aren't doing "enough." Like, an actual list of what needs doing around the house and who's going to do it, with reasonable limits and sense of how long things take, alongside the other stuff you all need/want to do over a weekend.


Theodosia - Feb 02, 2020 9:08:28 am PST #16005 of 30019
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

What Jesse Said. Because I think your wife loses track easily of what you've done. If there's a task board or list that you can both (and hey -- those kids, too) check things on, it will both give you a sense of accomplishment and reassure the both of you that Things Are Getting Done.

I suspect your wife's frustration over the business is slopping over into general frustration that isn't appropriate.


askye - Feb 02, 2020 9:17:05 am PST #16006 of 30019
Thrive to spite them

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Sheryl - Feb 02, 2020 10:13:14 am PST #16007 of 30019
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"

Timelies all!

On the upside, Mr. S didn't start making noise until almost 8 this morning.(This after not settling down to sleep until 9 last night) The rest of the day has not gone so well, with him running away from us in the parking lot of the shopping center where we had lunch(and were going to get groceries) and nearly got hit by a car. I ended up going back for groceries later.


Atropa - Feb 02, 2020 11:09:20 am PST #16008 of 30019
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

I suspect your wife's frustration over the business is slopping over into general frustration that isn't appropriate.

This is my suspicion, too.

It feels like laying out the expectations would be helpful, so your wife doesn't just feel like you aren't doing "enough." Like, an actual list of what needs doing around the house and who's going to do it, with reasonable limits and sense of how long things take, alongside the other stuff you all need/want to do over a weekend.

This! Is a really good idea!


sj - Feb 02, 2020 12:58:37 pm PST #16009 of 30019
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

What Theo said.

Sheryl, sounds like our kids are on the same Sunday schedule.

We had a birthday party for one of ltc's school friends yesterday, and today has been a bit of a lazy day. ltc made oatmeal for the week in the instant pot with TCG. She even used her new child safe knife set to peel and cut the apples! Then she helped me make risotto for dinner. She painted a couple of pictures and probably watched too much tv.


Sophia Brooks - Feb 02, 2020 12:59:32 pm PST #16010 of 30019
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here

I actually did the expectations thing on a white board with my student workers Friday and it was great! We made a list of everything we needed to get done, which was a lot. I noted I needed two uninterrupted hours to work on an important time sensitive project. I spent the whole day not just wondering when they would be finished! We all had fun crossing stuff off the board!


msbelle - Feb 02, 2020 2:46:24 pm PST #16011 of 30019
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb

got to see Lisa and Bob today. Met new people through them and volunteered with the Ride for the Feast they do each year.

I got curtains up on the rod in my bedroom and some opaque cling film up on windows (front door).

Also ran into my across the street neighbor that I met last summer in the grocery store. She recognized me. Now I have more names on my neighborhood house map I have drawn myself.


sj - Feb 02, 2020 2:54:22 pm PST #16012 of 30019
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Nothing makes me happier than hearing about buffistas spending time together.