Oz ,'Same Time, Same Place'
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
I remember sitting at the same table, in the same room, in the same funeral home twice, looking through pictures and making that choice. It is not a good memory.
So many people said this to me when I was answering phones for the funeral homes. Most of them wanted to plan everything ahead of time for the next loved one. And lots of people like to pick out their own urns, too.
Yeah, I would totally understand if they informed us they were buying urns. Picking your own. But have us pick it...as our Christmas present to them?
ND, I've never had to handle that before, I'm sorry it was hard. Do they make you pick right then for display-during-funeral type purposes? Or are you required to pick one to take them home?
My mom died just before Valentines Day and funeral home was so happy to give us her ashes in a pink, heart-shaped box instead of the plain brown one we'd paid for. Mom was SOOO not a pink heart type of person. I had a hard time not howling with laughter, but they were so sincere.
bennett, I am picturing a candy box and I'm sure it was nothing like that, but -
Timelies all!
Sleep...I need sleep. Not going to get any extra, though.
OMG, amyparker, that's not what I was envisioning, but it sure is now!!
Sadly, a candy box was pretty close - a little thicker than most, but that's the only difference. So not my Mom.
I'm sorry! *was replying to meara, but it fits both of the previous comments*
Do they make you pick right then for display-during-funeral type purposes? Or are you required to pick one to take them home?
You don't have to do anything right now. It's just one of so many decisions that have to be made, all of them are part of the process. My folks were very organized and had so much already taken care of, but there are still just so many decisions, and all of them have finality to them, given the circumstances.
My mother kept my father's cremains in the cardboard box they came in before having them interred in a veterans' cemetary (not Arlington). My sister - who handled our mother's cremation and had the ashes interred with our father's - has a special box in which she keeps the ashes of the cats that have predeceased her (three now, I believe) that she plans to have interred with her. I kind of hope I don't have to deal with this.