I am definitely glad my parents figured out most of the logistics around their funerals, etc., in advance. No urns, though -- my father is now in a columbarium behind a solid door, so for all I know, his cremains are in a cardboard box.
You got fired, and you still hang around here like a big loser. Why can't he?
Cordelia ,'Chosen'
Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess
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Jesse - Nov 25, 2019 10:59:46 am PST #14001 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Amy - Nov 25, 2019 11:19:24 am PST #14002 of 30019
Because books.
I remember sitting at the same table, in the same room, in the same funeral home twice, looking through pictures and making that choice. It is not a good memory.
So many people said this to me when I was answering phones for the funeral homes. Most of them wanted to plan everything ahead of time for the next loved one. And lots of people like to pick out their own urns, too.
meara - Nov 25, 2019 11:36:58 am PST #14003 of 30019
Yeah, I would totally understand if they informed us they were buying urns. Picking your own. But have us pick it...as our Christmas present to them?
ND, I've never had to handle that before, I'm sorry it was hard. Do they make you pick right then for display-during-funeral type purposes? Or are you required to pick one to take them home?
bennett - Nov 25, 2019 11:57:42 am PST #14004 of 30019
My mom died just before Valentines Day and funeral home was so happy to give us her ashes in a pink, heart-shaped box instead of the plain brown one we'd paid for. Mom was SOOO not a pink heart type of person. I had a hard time not howling with laughter, but they were so sincere.
amyparker - Nov 25, 2019 12:06:21 pm PST #14005 of 30019
You've got friends to have good times with. When you need to share the trauma of a badly-written book with someone, that's when you go to family.
bennett, I am picturing a candy box and I'm sure it was nothing like that, but -
Sheryl - Nov 25, 2019 12:07:08 pm PST #14006 of 30019
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Sleep...I need sleep. Not going to get any extra, though.
meara - Nov 25, 2019 12:09:49 pm PST #14007 of 30019
OMG, amyparker, that's not what I was envisioning, but it sure is now!!
bennett - Nov 25, 2019 12:17:53 pm PST #14008 of 30019
Sadly, a candy box was pretty close - a little thicker than most, but that's the only difference. So not my Mom.
amyparker - Nov 25, 2019 12:18:57 pm PST #14009 of 30019
You've got friends to have good times with. When you need to share the trauma of a badly-written book with someone, that's when you go to family.
I'm sorry! *was replying to meara, but it fits both of the previous comments*
NoiseDesign - Nov 25, 2019 12:23:31 pm PST #14010 of 30019
Our wings are not tired
Do they make you pick right then for display-during-funeral type purposes? Or are you required to pick one to take them home?
You don't have to do anything right now. It's just one of so many decisions that have to be made, all of them are part of the process. My folks were very organized and had so much already taken care of, but there are still just so many decisions, and all of them have finality to them, given the circumstances.