Surgery~ma for your son, Cindy.
Inara: We thought we lost you. Mal: Well, I've been right here.
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Sheryl - Oct 07, 2019 4:26:28 pm PDT #12134 of 30019
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Consuela - Oct 07, 2019 4:53:06 pm PDT #12135 of 30019
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Good luck, Cindy! And Zen, I'm sure you'll find something better.
Gud, please listen to your wise friends. Would you allow anyone to treat your child the way you talk about yourself? You deserve more kindness from both yourself and your wife.
Topic!Cindy - Oct 07, 2019 5:10:03 pm PDT #12136 of 30019
What is even happening?
Thanks everyone.
askye - Oct 07, 2019 5:20:22 pm PDT #12137 of 30019
Thrive to spite them
Gud if your wife really wanted to go to that state park she would have mentioned it more than once. She would have said something as you got close, or made sure y'all had enough time to see it. And if you accidentally drove past it she could have used her words and said "hey that's the turn for the state park" like a reasonable grown up does.
Except your wife is not reasonable. She is manipulative and petty and abusive. So instead of speaking up and making sure she sees the state park she really wants to see (or that the oil gets changed in her car or dinner is done to her standards or whatever else) she makes up reasons to emotionally and verbally abuse you.
Here are some links I hope you will use.
askye - Oct 07, 2019 5:20:58 pm PDT #12138 of 30019
Thrive to spite them
Cindy I hope your son's surgery goes really really well
Shir - Oct 08, 2019 12:05:08 am PDT #12139 of 30019
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Cindy, thinking of you and your son. Lots of ~ma.
Gud, I really hope you can listen to what the people here are saying. There is nothing wrong with you. You are a good human being. You are not responsible to keep everyone around you happy or make 100% of their wishes come true. Please take care of yourself.
Beverly - Oct 08, 2019 12:08:21 am PDT #12140 of 30019
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Cindy, all good thoughts for best results for your son.
Fred Pete - Oct 08, 2019 3:28:16 am PDT #12141 of 30019
Ann, that's a ferret.
Gud, what everyone said above. Also, YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!!!! You are not well, and your wife's treatment of you is contributing to the problem.
Many of the things you say remind me of myself two years ago. I ended up with a nervous breakdown (and feel free to think of that as a euphemism) that led to a week in the hospital and a psych unit. Trust me, you'd rather go another route to learn the lessons I learned there.
If nothing else, call a hot line. Talk to someone who's been trained to help. 800-273-8255 is a good place to start.
Tom Scola - Oct 08, 2019 4:38:04 am PDT #12142 of 30019
Remember that the frontier of the Rebellion is everywhere. And even the smallest act of insurrection pushes our lines forward.
Gordon D. Sondland, an Ambassador who will defy an order to testify to the House impeachment committee today, is also a literal Leverage villain.
Jesse - Oct 08, 2019 4:47:25 am PDT #12143 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
So this may not be at all relevant, but I saw a reference on the internet yesterday to a thing called "rejection sensitive dysphoria," which apparently can lead to people catastrophizing any negative feedback. Gud, I wonder if anything like that is in play here? Which I only suggest as another reason to talk to a professional -- maybe there are techniques you can learn around how you react to your wife's criticisms.