There was also a written question about "how do you fit our core values" of like, integrity and dignity and compassion and blah blah blah.

"Wait, I thought this was a job for a company in Trump Industries."

Mac has not selected a Transition program, but he has selected a therapist to go see here, it is a condition of him being allowed to sleep in this house.

He is also made a commitment to go get his license renewed tomorrow. He is starting to realize that his friends do not have any urgency about doing the things he NEEDS to do, or helping him in anyway.

I also found out today that he called my parents when they were on their trip and cursed and spewed hate until they hung up, so that is a weight of shame and embarrassment he is carrying around.

It sounds like he's taking steps in a positive direction. I hope for both of you that that trend continues.

Go mac! I expect there will be some backsliding, but this is such a positive step! I cross my fingers hard now.

What those smart people said.

Wow, the amount that I don't want to do any work today is enormous.

That all sounds like good developments, msbelle. Even the thing with your parents - it sucks but that you know about it (did he tell you? Because that is awesome if he told you) and that it's weighing on him is better than it could be for sure.

I decided to splurge on Starbucks this morning (side note: the Pumpkin Cream Cold Brew has actual pumpkin in it! Yum) and they lost my drink order and were hella busy so now I'm half an hour late to the office. I don't think anyone noticed, though, because it's an off day for half my team and a few more are on vacation...

...and the work I have to do covering for the people who are out has me preemptively exhausted. So glad I have coffee

A little more whining or complaining anyway or maybe just a reality check: so last week we had those layoffs and a bunch of people just pretty much disappeared, all information that I got was spread through the grapevine (I guess we did get officially told who was laid off from our specific department but that's it). yesterday I got an invitation for a "goodbye party" for the VP of another department who is apparently voluntarily leaving. This has always struck me as troublesome, that if you choose to leave you get a party but if you are let go in any fashion you just are gone, poof, but the timing of this one really bothers me. Am I being unreasonable?

Seems pretty tacky to me, -t.

-t he did not tell me, my mother did.

He has HUGE block to ever admitting any wrong or apologizing. I know it is weighing on him by how he is acting - just know his body language and responses. I tried to connect the dots for him and told him I know he is embarrassed and it will be hard, but he needs to both see his grandmother and apologize. She knows he loves her and he needs to see that she loves him.