I'm sorry so many of us are struggling. I got recommendations for a therapist a couple of months ago and have yet to summon the courage to make an appointment. I've never done therapy, have been on Lexa.pro for years, and have never really thought talk therapy would be my thing. But I'm definitely struggling and think I need to work through my issues and make that call. Why is it so hard?
But if the world doesn't end, I'm gonna need a note.
Cordelia ,'Potential'
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Glamcookie - Jul 05, 2017 11:18:27 am PDT #876 of 8185
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Maria - Jul 05, 2017 11:38:56 am PDT #877 of 8185
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Humanity. Not a fan today.
Really any day since 11/8.
Why is it so hard?
I wish I knew. I'm sorry you're struggling as well.
Zenkitty - Jul 05, 2017 11:41:44 am PDT #878 of 8185
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I was in therapy for over a decade, total, with several different therapists, most weren't so good and didn't last long, but couple I saw for a year or more. I did a lot of hard work. But only once did I ever even mention the rapes, and she never brought it up again. I keep thinking I should try to find a therapist i really click with and really start working on that whole thing. But I don't want to. Just typing those words made my heart palpitate.
And now I feel like crying. Shit. I should probably do it. I don't want to.
Well, dammit, I actually came here to post that I got the cast off. Now I'm working on getting my persistently swollen foot to bend flat enough to get it in the stupid "boot" and start walking. I want to go home.
Dana - Jul 05, 2017 11:46:24 am PDT #879 of 8185
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
It's one of life's most obnoxious ironies that the more you need help, the harder it is to ask for it. Maybe that's not true for everyone, I don't know.
Hooray for being cast-free! I liked the boot a lot more.
Steph L. - Jul 05, 2017 11:52:37 am PDT #880 of 8185
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
Yay, cast removal! That's excellent news!
It's one of life's most obnoxious ironies that the more you need help, the harder it is to ask for it. Maybe that's not true for everyone, I don't know.
This is totally true for me.
Toddson - Jul 05, 2017 11:52:52 am PDT #881 of 8185
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
Congrats on getting the cast off! once you're walking again, I'm sure you'll be more comfortable and more mobile.
Maria - Jul 05, 2017 12:10:20 pm PDT #882 of 8185
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
It's one of life's most obnoxious ironies that the more you need help, the harder it is to ask for it.
Holy shit. Um, yeah. Damn. (When did I get so clueless?)
Hooray for the cast coming off, Zen! I'm sorry this discussion has brought up some bad things for you.
Dana - Jul 05, 2017 12:17:57 pm PDT #883 of 8185
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
I also read something on Tumblr this morning about procrastination, and I'm surely oversimplifying, but it was about the fight/flight/freeze response.
If you're faced with a threat, those are the possible responses. Fight--get angry. Flight--avoid. Freeze--procrastinate. When you know you can't fight something or run from it, what's left is just freezing up.
Zenkitty - Jul 05, 2017 12:22:38 pm PDT #884 of 8185
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I'm sorry this discussion has brought up some bad things for you.
Thanks. It's okay though. This has been simmering on the back burner for decades. I'm either going to deal with it or, y'know, just keep ignoring it.
Steph L. - Jul 05, 2017 12:56:46 pm PDT #885 of 8185
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
If you're faced with a threat, those are the possible responses. Fight--get angry. Flight--avoid. Freeze--procrastinate. When you know you can't fight something or run from it, what's left is just freezing up.
My therapist said that there are 2 other slightly more complicated options: Submit, which is letting it happen but not fighting, and a 5th option that I can't remember the name of, but is basically Stockholm Syndrome -- you identify/align/agree with it to try to make yourself safe. I can never keep straight how those 2 aren't the same, but I have therapy tomorrow and she often has that chart out, so I can check.