All the hugs and love to you and Brendon, Laura. That's a truly awful situation to be in. And yes, please, bring it here when you can't bring it anywhere else. Your Bitches have your back.
Zoe: Planet's coming up a mite fast. Wash: That's just cause, I'm going down too quick. Likely crash and kill us all. Mal: Well, that happens, let me know.
'Shindig'
Spike's Bitches 49: As usual, I'm here to help you, and I... are you naked under there?
Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Karl - Dec 17, 2023 10:15:50 am PST #7965 of 8185
I adore all you motherfuckers so much -- PMM.
Laura - Dec 17, 2023 10:59:35 am PST #7966 of 8185
Our wings are not tired.
Thank you. I carry the pain every day, but I also carry the belief that he will wake up one day and come back into the fold. It is very hard on my MIL who has never seen her great-grandchildren. This too shall pass. This too shall pass.
erikaj - Dec 17, 2023 1:39:40 pm PST #7967 of 8185
Always Anti-fascist!
it happens, not every time, but maybe.
Sean K - Dec 20, 2023 7:57:05 am PST #7968 of 8185
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
Oh, Laura. I'm so sorry.
erikaj - Dec 20, 2023 11:59:39 am PST #7969 of 8185
Always Anti-fascist!
I know this stuff happens a lot. my own family has lots of estrangement in it. still, hard to think that somebody wants to be estranged from *Laura and Brendan* though. They're so chill! I mean, even my having fights with my dad and stepmonster have some logic, but in my version, we would have worked it through or something by now. Like a Norman Lear joint....I wouldn't have to wonder if I'm being ghosted because of their lack of capacity, or some part of ancient history where I was, maybe, TA.(After a while, you do stop caring a little, I'm sorry to say. But I hope your problems don't go on that long!)
Laura - Dec 20, 2023 12:24:42 pm PST #7970 of 8185
Our wings are not tired.
It wouldn't be so incomprehensible if he hadn't been so incredibly close and loving. We did everything together, even after he married. They wouldn't do stuff without asking if we wanted to with them. We enjoyed each other's company.
Seriously, it is easier for me because I do believe he will come back. His uncle thinks he has backed himself into a corner and isn't sure how to get out of it. He still lunches with Brendon's brother from time to time. Maybe he will contact me on my 70th birthday in February. It will be almost 3 years since he did so at that point. I believe it will happen at some point. Brendon is less optimistic, but that aligns with our personalities.
It is really helpful to be able to talk about it here since it is hard to talk to family about it without anger and tears.
erikaj - Dec 20, 2023 1:20:12 pm PST #7971 of 8185
Always Anti-fascist!
Yeah, aw, that really stinks. Sometimes pride can be stupid.
brenda m - Dec 20, 2023 4:50:54 pm PST #7972 of 8185
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Oh Laura. I think about you often I truly hope he comes to his senses one day soon.
Beverly - Dec 21, 2023 12:40:23 am PST #7973 of 8185
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Laura, I think of your family often and wish you the best. Not knowing why is awful. Sending mental mending glue.
Cass - Dec 21, 2023 4:48:42 pm PST #7974 of 8185
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Seriously, it is easier for me because I do believe he will come back. His uncle thinks he has backed himself into a corner and isn't sure how to get out of it. He still lunches with Brendon's brother from time to time. Maybe he will contact me on my 70th birthday in February. It will be almost 3 years since he did so at that point. I believe it will happen at some point. Brendon is less optimistic, but that aligns with our personalities.
I cannot believe there are adults who wouldn't be lucky to have you and Brendon. And I hope so much that your kid would finally see this.
My sister disinvited herself for awhile from family but that was meth. A few times.
I'm sorry, this must be mad to have no idea why. But you are both good people.