I have read enough stories about weddings/birthday parties/etc. being superspreader events to make me give a serious side-eye to anyone planning one of those right now. I know it sucks not to be able to celebrate with people you love! It really does! But you know what would suck so much more? Someone you love DYING (or even just suffering from a lingering and poorly understood disease!) because you decided to go ahead and throw a party anyway.

Ugh, I get so mad about this.

I don't understand people.

the stupid thing is that they have already postponed the reception to next year. Theyve been together for 14 years, living together for at least 6 of those years. There is no need to have this ceremony. This is a combination of COVID denial and the need to have some happiness from the groom's mom.

I might consider going but being the official videographer and keeping at a nice distance recording the event for those who can't attend. It will be outside. I don't know. Being pissed at them isn't helping. I keep telling DH we don't have to decide for at least a week and just put it aside, but he doesn't know how to do that.

Ugh, Vortex. I'm sorry they are putting you in that position.

With a bunch of non-mask-wearing people. DIL's parents post pictures every single week going out to live music events at bars with bunches of non-mask wearing partiers. If I say I don't want to go because I'd rather not get sick and die they will still think it is because of the spat, which is also true.

Who cares if *both* are true. This is how COVID is spiking even higher again.

My family is the freaking cover story about how to pretend there's not a problem. I'm shocked no one has ended up on a ventilator or died.

Well my great-aunt just died and I didn't ask why because she was 99 and a hugely bitter person for far longer than I knew her so while I don't think elderly people have less to live for, I kinda hope Teta finally found some peace wherever she is. Or quiet.

So no way am I going to Thanksgiving. Christmas is going to be a harder sell but I'll burn that bridge in December.

Laura, I'm sorry. That's a real spot to be in. Do you have conditions that put you at high risk? (I'm thinking blood pressure, but my memory is Swiss cheese these days.) Have you talked to your doctor about whether you should attend?

I have read enough stories about weddings/birthday parties/etc. being superspreader events to make me give a serious side-eye to anyone planning one of those right now. I know it sucks not to be able to celebrate with people you love! It really does! But you know what would suck so much more? Someone you love DYING (or even just suffering from a lingering and poorly understood disease!) because you decided to go ahead and throw a party anyway.

Ugh, I get so mad about this.

Yes. This. All of it, Kate.

I told her last night that I'm going to the church and the park, but any event inside is a no go for me. Any outside event that is not social distanced is also a no go, which includes any kind of event where people are close together with those outside of their bubble/family.

Vortex, I don't blame you.

My late cousin's son has postponed his wedding twice, now. They were originally supposed to be married in April. I knew when they put it off until November that I wouldn't be going and they'd probably have to put it off again. They've set a new date in the spring. If my cousin were still alive, I'd suggest they just get married now with pre-tested parents and best friends present and throw reception when it's all over, but I'm not close enough to his widow to say anything to her. Besides, my cousin would have told the kids that, himself.

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Hi Daniel!

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